Am I normal?

[kaldri]

Hey everyone,

I have just recently started posting on this site. From the age of 9 I started putting things in my ass without really knowing what I was doing. It just felt good. I continued to put things in my ass over the year and I wanted larger and more intense every time. I am 20 now and I have stretched my ass to the point it rosebuds. I do not think I am gay at all. I have never been atracted to men at all. I have told my girlfriend I like to play with my ass but part of me suspects she thinks I am gay. I would like to get her to start playing with my ass too but I am always too nervous to ask. I have always wondered am I normal? Is it normal for straight men to want to have a giant prolapsing asshole?

[Guest piromanyac]

Yes it is normal for straight men to havea prolapsing asshole. I'm exactly the same, and my gf helps me too.

[kaldri]

Did she jump right in and start doing it? My girlfriend has used a dildo on me before and she knows I have a prolapse fetish fut I dont think she understands how extreme it is. I want her to use a huge strapon on me and fist me but I dont know how to pop that question cause its such an important thing to me.

[kcolyrf]

When I started going out with my girlfriend, I made a huge leap by telling her I was into this sort of thing.

I was really nervous that day and she could see that. In her mind she thought it would be something really bad like I had a bad drug addiction but after I told her I was into this sort of play, she started laughing and said 'Was that it? you were nervous all day to tell me that?'

In the end, she plays with my ass whenever I ask or whenever she wants to and loves to stretch me out

[Rosebutt]

[quote name='john doe' date='09 June 2013 - 07:18 AM' timestamp='1370776702' post='819533']
When I started going out with my girlfriend, I made a huge leap by telling her I was into this sort of thing.

I was really nervous that day and she could see that. In her mind she thought it would be something really bad like I had a bad drug addiction but after I told her I was into this sort of play, she started laughing and said 'Was that it? you were nervous all day to tell me that?'

In the end, she plays with my ass whenever I ask or whenever she wants to and loves to stretch me out
[/quote]

I'm 42 and have been playing since I was 5 or so. I have always loved ass play. Never ever had a gay experience. Never questioned my heterosexuality. Been with the same woman for 25 years, married 17. Have a huge prolapse/rosebutt. I self fist, plug and pump. She knows I love ass play but not the extent. And you know why? Because its MY business.

Just call down and stop trying to assign names and tags to things- especially feelings. Do what makes you feel good and fuck the rest.

[nudeox]

I agree with rosebutt.
What is the definition of normal anyway?
Besides that, who the hell wants to be normal, normal is boring?

Just be yourself and make the most it whilst you are young. Not that you can't do it when you are older but you have time on your side so don't waste it worrying about pointless things.

I am similar to rosebutt being 40 and have lots of experience under my belt.
Sadly my wife isn't into it the same way I am so it's something i do alone (when ever the opp arises)
I too went through the questioning of myself, am I normal? Am I gay? Why do I enjoy large dildos and self fisting??
I have since started wanting to feel the real thing but I know i am not gay as I totally love the female form. I have been starting to fantasies about cocks and guys but that's another story.

What matters is how you feel and you just need to do what ever you want.

Since accepting the facts above about being normal and gender issues I have started enjoying cross dressing and bringing out my Feminine side which is a huge turn on for me.
Again this is why you should make the most of being young as you have time to experiment and try lots of different things.

You could just try being honest with your girlfriend. If she loves you and wants to stay with you she will try her upmost to understand it even if she doesn't want to join in.
Then the next question is do you want a partner to enjoy it with or are you happy doing it alone.

If I was young again I know what I would do. I would tell her how much i love her an explain how you feel about anal play and how good it makes you feel, then tell her that you would like her to join in and get involved. If she isn't that kind of girl then no matter what you say she won't change and you cant expect her to change either.

The bottom line is you cant lose. If she is into it then you have a GF that will happily jam a strap on into you or insert her little fists in etc
She might even want to experiment herself. Bonus!!!
If she isnt into it then its in your hands to either stick with her or leave her -
if you leave her you are free to roam the world as a 20 yo single guy, where you can experiment to your hearts content!! who knows what you will discover along the way.

Just remember 2 things. Enjoy and enjoy safely!!!

[Golfrog]

Like all the previous posters here, I have played with my ass since I was 7 or 8, and 25 years later, have reached a point which would not impress on this forum, but pretty much everywhere else.

I define myself as heterosexual. Even though I can admire a nice male body and be somewhat excited by a stiff penis, I am much, much more excited by females. I never had any sexual experience with another man, and I am turned off by that thought. I had sexual experiences with women, and am very turned on by that thought.

Contrary to others, my fetish is purely private (except on this forum), nobody around me has a clue.

Liking things in the ass is very much different from being gay. But that's of course hard to explain to people who don't share this fetish (even to yourself, apparently. )

[Rosebutt]

[quote name='Golfrog' date='01 July 2013 - 01:40 PM' timestamp='1372700440' post='834862']
Like all the previous posters here, I have played with my ass since I was 7 or 8, and 25 years later, have reached a point which would not impress on this forum, but pretty much everywhere else.

I define myself as heterosexual. Even though I can admire a nice male body and be somewhat excited by a stiff penis, I am much, much more excited by females. I never had any sexual experience with another man, and I am turned off by that thought. I had sexual experiences with women, and am very turned on by that thought.

Contrary to others, my fetish is purely private (except on this forum), nobody around me has a clue.

Liking things in the ass is very much different from being gay. But that's of course hard to explain to people who don't share this fetish (even to yourself, apparently. )
[/quote]

Totally. Liking assplay does NOT make you gay.

[baldybits1]

i love assplay but for me i love a cock as well as a pussy

[curiousboy]

First of all, I am glad I popped by at this section after long time: in the old glorious times we used to have plenty of discussions like that..
Well buddies welcome me at the club "yes i fiddle with my asshole but I am not gay one bit" I did tried often to explain to mysel how this is possible, plausible, shameful..how this can merge in one person like me. I never asked myself if I am normal nevertheless, because I don't give a shit about being normal. I am rather abnormal ..considering the norm, which is the mass, which is the mess, which is the boredom and endless dullness. Ok that said another question: why do we love it?[font="Impact"] I think there is an ensemble of reasons for it[/font]:
it's safe (as long you are not a nut)

* it does not require any going out to look for a partner which implies pretty much effort with little chance she will satisfy your thrills.

* It gives you a feeling of both parts (the penetrating and the penetrated), and we all know that all of us have a part of the other sex, it can be quite minimal, almost absent or pronounced, depends. I guess mine is quite minimal.

* Last but not least, it is a bit the fruit of our porn addiction in the way we enjoy the scene and we make it go the way we like it(humm bit criptic but try to get it)

[quote name='piromanyac' date='09 June 2013 - 04:16 AM' timestamp='1370747789' post='819315']
Yes it is normal for straight men to havea prolapsing asshole. I'm exactly the same, and my gf helps me too.

[/quote]


[quote name='john doe' date='09 June 2013 - 12:18 PM' timestamp='1370776702' post='819533']
When I started going out with my girlfriend, I made a huge leap by telling her I was into this sort of thing.

I was really nervous that day and she could see that. In her mind she thought it would be something really bad like I had a bad drug addiction but after I told her I was into this sort of play, she started laughing and said 'Was that it? you were nervous all day to tell me that?'

In the end, she plays with my ass whenever I ask or whenever she wants to and loves to stretch me out
[/quote]

Lucky guys you are! Or perhaps you searched well...


[quote name='Golfrog' date='01 July 2013 - 06:40 PM' timestamp='1372700440' post='834862']
Like all the previous posters here, I have played with my ass since I was 7 or 8, and 25 years later, have reached a point which would not impress on this forum, but pretty much everywhere else.

I define myself as heterosexual. Even though I can admire a nice male body and be somewhat excited by a stiff penis, I am much, much more excited by females. I never had any sexual experience with another man, and I am turned off by that thought. I had sexual experiences with women, and am very turned on by that thought.

Contrary to others, my fetish is purely private (except on this forum), nobody around me has a clue.

Liking things in the ass is very much different from being gay. But that's of course hard to explain to people who don't share this fetish (even to yourself, apparently. )
[/quote]

Same here

And I think I am lucky: I can enjoy feelings and sensations others cant, without losing any of theirs.. ( I know, I m a terrible writer )

Cheers all and keep ramming it!

cb

[stretchedout]

Yep! Nice to read the other posts from 30 and 40 yo guys. Like them I have always liked to play with the asshole alone and have a collection of toys to envy. Started at 12 or 13, now 45 - I guess as a result of porn and wanting to feel the other side and happily going 30 years later. I actually thought I'd grow out of it, but no chance!! It is a part of who you are.
No problems with big objects except not warming up properly for a large rubber fist a year or so back and that seems to have left a permanent reminder
All good fun, not gay but hard to explain that to anyone who didn't understand.
But, I have considered telling my wife early on, but glad I didn't. She is very closed minded and uptight (getting worse with time) and would be totally suspicious of the pastime.

Fantasising about having an enthusiastic partner in this hobby might be it for me - it would be great, but I feel that a woman would always feel like her partner was a bit gay if he admitted to cross dressing or stretching the hole

I guess the other good outcome of having a willing partner is that you don't have to worry about getting caught!
Do it without guilt and enjoy every minute.





[quote name='curiousboy' date='27 July 2013 - 10:18 AM' timestamp='1374920304' post='852951']
First of all, I am glad I popped by at this section after long time: in the old glorious times we used to have plenty of discussions like that..
Well buddies welcome me at the club "yes i fiddle with my asshole but I am not gay one bit" I did tried often to explain to mysel how this is possible, plausible, shameful..how this can merge in one person like me. I never asked myself if I am normal nevertheless, because I don't give a shit about being normal. I am rather abnormal ..considering the norm, which is the mass, which is the mess, which is the boredom and endless dullness. Ok that said another question: why do we love it?[font="Impact"] I think there is an ensemble of reasons for it[/font]:
it's safe (as long you are not a nut)

* it does not require any going out to look for a partner which implies pretty much effort with little chance she will satisfy your thrills.

* It gives you a feeling of both parts (the penetrating and the penetrated), and we all know that all of us have a part of the other sex, it can be quite minimal, almost absent or pronounced, depends. I guess mine is quite minimal.

* Last but not least, it is a bit the fruit of our porn addiction in the way we enjoy the scene and we make it go the way we like it(humm bit criptic but try to get it)






Lucky guys you are! Or perhaps you searched well...




Same here

And I think I am lucky: I can enjoy feelings and sensations others cant, without losing any of theirs.. ( I know, I m a terrible writer )

Cheers all and keep ramming it!

cb
[/quote]

[Fyrezice]

Hi kaldri,

As others have said ass hole play is completely normal. Of course it is highly unlikely anyone would disagree with that sentiment on this site. I would only add that if you did happen to have any gay tendencies, god forbid, some might consider you more "normal" than if you did not have, never did have, never will have any such tendencies whatsoever.

[skifreak]

nope, crazy as a loon, like the rest of us.

[BodyAss]

Normal? Lol. Normal is missionary position afaik

Let's say U r ok!

[tzstt]

I was actually pleasantly surprised to learn that (it appears) most men on this board are (mostly) hetero.

That being said, there is no such thing as "normal."

[nicopama]

1.- Normal does not mean: GOOD. Normal is used to describe when someone's behaviour conforms to the most COMMON behaviour in society.
2.- Let's face it: Fisting my own ass and getting dildos in and out, IS NOT in the common behaviour in society.
3.- So, I am not COMMON concerning sexual behaviour, as my sexual behaviour does not conform to the most COMMON in society.
4.- Therefore I am not Normal because I am not into the Common Group.
5.- Being "Normal" defined, what's the problem with being not normal, what's the deal with that?

[FreakSomethin]

I remember feeling a sensation when using the bathroom and wondered what it would feel like to play with my anus so I did. Liked it, then started experimenting with my finger, then two, then three, then sausage or cucumbers, then shampoo bottles, and it kept going and going bigger and bigger. I realized that I have a huge fetish for this sort of thing and I am 100% straight male with no interest in men at all. I just love the sensation it gives (do research on the prostate to better understand) so now I toy around and make myself videos that I keep encrypted to keep track of some of my solo play sessions. A good friend of mine wrote a guide that I followed to learn how to take huge toys quickly, and from there... the rest is history. I'll post a thread about it so you can read it. He is a bit different though... he can take horse fully, etc. I'm not really into the animal thing, but umm... it was so fascinating to watch that I have thought about trying it a few times.

[redrick]

I agree there is no such thing as normal that said have fun I am not gay big etc my wife enjoys destroying my ass

[Slutyass]

I’ve been playing with my ass since I was 11 years old, I’m 66 now and still going strong. Normal is way over rated! Sticking stuff up my ass and stretching my man pussy, now that’s normal!

[WildAssCock]

i feel the same , sometime i feel like im a lesbian in a male body XD