Yep! Nice to read the other posts from 30 and 40 yo guys. Like them I have always liked to play with the asshole alone and have a collection of toys to envy. Started at 12 or 13, now 45 - I guess as a result of porn and wanting to feel the other side and happily going 30 years later. I actually thought I'd grow out of it, but no chance!! It is a part of who you are.
No problems with big objects except not warming up properly for a large rubber fist a year or so back and that seems to have left a permanent reminder
All good fun, not gay but hard to explain that to anyone who didn't understand.
But, I have considered telling my wife early on, but glad I didn't. She is very closed minded and uptight (getting worse with time) and would be totally suspicious of the pastime.
Fantasising about having an enthusiastic partner in this hobby might be it for me - it would be great, but I feel that a woman would always feel like her partner was a bit gay if he admitted to cross dressing or stretching the hole
I guess the other good outcome of having a willing partner is that you don't have to worry about getting caught!
Do it without guilt and enjoy every minute.
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First of all, I am glad I popped by at this section after long time: in the old glorious times we used to have plenty of discussions like that..
Well buddies welcome me at the club "yes i fiddle with my asshole but I am not gay one bit" I did tried often to explain to mysel how this is possible, plausible, shameful..how this can merge in one person like me. I never asked myself if I am normal nevertheless, because I don't give a shit about being normal. I am rather abnormal ..considering the norm, which is the mass, which is the mess, which is the boredom and endless dullness. Ok that said another question: why do we love it?[font="Impact"] I think there is an ensemble of reasons for it[/font]:
it's safe (as long you are not a nut)
* it does not require any going out to look for a partner which implies pretty much effort with little chance she will satisfy your thrills.
* It gives you a feeling of both parts (the penetrating and the penetrated), and we all know that all of us have a part of the other sex, it can be quite minimal, almost absent or pronounced, depends. I guess mine is quite minimal.
* Last but not least, it is a bit the fruit of our porn addiction in the way we enjoy the scene and we make it go the way we like it(humm bit criptic but try to get it)
Lucky guys you are! Or perhaps you searched well...
Same here
And I think I am lucky: I can enjoy feelings and sensations others cant, without losing any of theirs.. ( I know, I m a terrible writer )
Cheers all and keep ramming it!
cb
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