Is your fetish learned or innate?

[hectorknot]

What are people's thoughts?

I often wonder what my tastes would be without porn.

My first exposure to a lot of fetishes was when I was young and I bought a copy of 'My Secret Garden.' I read every bit but really found the more extreme and taboo content arousing. I think this is what draws me to anal. However, I also started experimenting with my arse independent of this.

The heavier anal experimentation and stretching took place when I was in my early 20s.

In the meantime I am often drawn to anything dirty, forbidden or taboo. Incest, piss, shit, even bestiality can seem appealing as fantasies. I wonder if they would even have occurred to me without porn/erotica?

What are people's thoughts?

[afxacid]

I think ive always been a bit more kninky than most and would have probably developed a fetish of some sort even without porn.
But porn definitely encourages me to push myself further. I mean i would not have believed some of the things you can do with your ass were possible if i had not seen it in amateur porn in particular.

[SavageKen]

I started playing with my ass when i was 14-15 and up until i was 25 took nothing larger than a beer bottle, and porn had no influence as i grew up in a rural community where porn was scarce and the internet was not around yet. HOWEVER - now that I shove 3.5" wide dildos and plugs up my ass as well as vacume pump for prolapse was all infuenced from the internet!!!!!!

[egotrip]

Hi,

I'm only 19 by the time posting this and can say, I'm really attracted in this whole anal thing.
I grew up with the internet and had access to it from when I was 12 years old. I think, this has really influented me!
I think, I'd have tried anal sex with my girlfriend just when I had never seen it on the internet, but I think, playing with my own hole came from watching it in amateurporn.

[Golfrog]

I think a lot of my fetishes are innate. I started playing with my hole many years before the Internet became available. I also was strongly attracted to bondage imagery way before getting access to the Internet (e.g. depictions of bound damsels in distress).

[Fyrezice]

Innate for me too. Golfrog's comments could be mine except for the example. In my imagery I was the one bound in distress.

[curiousboy]

Nurture vs nature here... I think in this case nurture wins!
But not overwhelmingly, i guess.

my 2 cents, of course, pals.

cheers

cb

[workMyhole]

i'd go with mostly innate, tho perhaps it depends on the person.

first time ever i jerked off i shoved fingers in my ass, it just felt like something i wanted to do. i also used to self suck when i was young and thought i was the only one doing it until several years later i got on the internet and found photos and video of a guy doing it. also, seeing my dad's porn stash he's kept over the years and on his computer, there are a lot of similarities of what we both like Edited September 28, 2011 by workmyhole

[LOBOPENDEX]

Innate for me. I can recall times when I stuck a pen up my butt. I was 14 or so. Pen got bigger with years. Porn made it even worse. Edited October 12, 2011 by LOBOPENDEX

[soundboy]

Depends. Some are "learned" or rather aquired and some have always been there.

Anal play has been with me since early on. I wanted to know what it would feel like to be in a woman. So I stuck a finger up butt. Next came objects. One fine day my ex-gf managed to slip in her hand. But I think it was always within me. Even now that my current gf isn't into it I still play by myself. Not as often as I used to but I'd rule out external influences.

Bondage and SM is definetly aquired. I never even thought about it until my current gf asked me to beat her. And I was very hesitant at first but like it a lot now.

Other stuff I'd just chalk up to natural curiosity. When I had my first gf (talk about finally ) I had a big desire to taste her. Including her pee. Same goes for peehole play. It's probably aquired. I saw it on the net and gave it a try.

But maybe the latter stuff doesn't count as fetish? I mean, I like doing it but I can go without whereas sometimes I just crave anal in so many forms sooo much...

[hectorknot]

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When I had my first gf (talk about finally ) I had a big desire to taste her. Including her pee.
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Me to. My GF doesn't quite understand just how much yet. It's the same with her arse. When I rim her (not very often sadly) I LOVE the smell and taste. I don't have a scat/pee fetish, but I can see how it would be incredibly horny and intimate in the right situation.

[skifreak]

the desire to explore obviously is innate, and since junior high on up I have always been a step or two out of sync with the rest of the world. The outside influence of porn and the dark side of sensuality probably is best explained as showing us what others have enjoyed and found to be possible, opening up paths that we happily try but may not have thought of.

In general we have to be already headed toward being a sexual deviant (:-)) and porn just helps us get there faster and bigger.

[Landersin]

Personally, I think of mine as learned. I'm really into anal play, but before I had access to the internet, I didn't even know that it was possible/something that happened. In other words, I had never felt drawn to anal stimulation before viewing porn that depicted such activities. Speaking of which, thank god for porn, or I might never have discovered my own ass.

[Rosebutt]

I've been into my own ass since I was 5 years old. In the bathtub discovering my anus with my pinky. I recall knowing somehow that I loved it.
My wife and I are really into anal but only with her. She knows not of my pumping, plugging and prolapse.
So for me, innate AND learned.

[santarosa50]

As a child, I used to stick my mom's tampons (wax paper cylinder back then) up my ass and fuck myself and it has grown since.

[PeteRose]

I got into piss/scat play with an ex gf. She wanted me to piss in her pussy.The next thing was she'd finger her asshole and shove her finger in my mouth.Sometimes it was clean,sometimes not.From there she went to wiping it on her tits and pussy and having me clean her up. Then I suggested her letting me watch her shit. We only had anal sex once though,but she fucked me with a cucumber.
After that, I was hooked. It didnt hurt as bad as I though it would. Since girls always complain about how much it hurts I tried it on myself. I used a dildo and yes it DID hurt,but I took time and eventually it felt really good. Now I love the stretched worn out feeling I have hrs later after playing. Now I use an inflatable which I can get very big...i need to measure it.
Simply put, I think its nature AND nurture. Everything I did with my ex was 20 plus yrs ago...waaay before the internet,but the internet pushed my boundries much farther.Im psyched that there many more people out there like me.

[micrichard12]

[quote name='hectorknot' date='08 July 2011 - 08:23 PM' timestamp='1310178237' post='349631']
What are people's thoughts?

I often wonder what my tastes would be without porn.

My first exposure to a lot of fetishes was when I was young and I bought a copy of 'My Secret Garden.' I read every bit but really found the more extreme and taboo content arousing. I think this is what draws me to anal. However, I also started experimenting with my arse independent of this.

The heavier anal experimentation and stretching took place when I was in my early 20s.

In the meantime I am often drawn to anything dirty, forbidden or taboo. Incest, piss, shit, even bestiality can seem appealing as fantasies. I wonder if they would even have occurred to me without porn/erotica?

What are people's thoughts?
[/quote]
I'm 18 now, and have been experimenting anally for about three years. I would have to say porn has really developed my fetish, because until I saw female pornstars taking massive dongs, I really hadn't ever thought about it. I eventually found my moms dildo, and started using it to stretch myself out. Now, I have recently started to work towards prolapse, only problem is finding a trainer in the Minneapolis area. I'm pretty much interested in anything anal.

[boymibad2]

I'm 67 now. I found my Dad's small porn stash but it was vanilla compared to what's available online now. No fucking, no sucking; just hairy pussies, & big tits (naturals).

I can't remember what I started out with but I do remember finally standing and taking the large end of a full sized Louisville Slugger in my ass when I was 16. Oh what a fantastic feeling!

I'm straight, but I do love to shove things up my ass. Can't do it very often because I'm married. But heaven help my colon when she leaves town for a few days!

[sss222]

I can't recall much how it all started... I watched vanilla porn before I started playing with my ass, but the fetish definitely wasn't influenced by porn, because I was disgusted by anal sex in porn and I'm still today. It was much later when I found out I'm actually not the only one doing this by watching some amateur videos on the net. Edited May 22, 2012 by sss222

[nybound1111]

Personally, I think that all fetish is learned, and not innate or instinctual. However, I do believe that through self-exploring and self-discovery through the pubescent years will lead people to greeting the anal side. I started watching porn at a young age (11~12) and a little after that I started exploring my body. Then, at like 13 or 14 I started to do enemas to be clean for playing (bananas and flashlights and stuff). I think I would have done anal stuff regardless of whether or not I watched porn. For a certainty, I know that my leather/latex, fisting, cumplay, and my admiration for TS/TV is all from porn. lol. I even think my slight bisexuality is from porn and being a horny guy. It's nice to see a good thread here. Thanks!

[zerolagers]

Probably both.

I've always had an unusually strong sex drive, and had experimented with anal at an early age - but my interest was accelerated by exposure to porn.

Same goes with my bisexuality, which didn't happen until well into adulthood. It started from my desire for fisting partners, and over time I leaned to enjoy sex with male partners as much as with females.

[AssFiend]

I didn't watch porn until I was 17, didn't experiment with anal play until I was 18, and didn't get into heavier anal play until a couple years after that, so I guess I was a late bloomer (no pun intended). But I'm just as hooked on it as those who started earlier.

[owen20342]

Definitely learned....

I really don't think wanting to stretch your ass our could ever be an innate fetish and why? Because we ALL feel a sense of pleasure and relief when our ass is played with. The thing is, only a fraction of us are able to get over the social stigma associated with ass play and explore these wonderful feelings.