Fantasy or reality

[fun_e_gy]

I've been surfing the net now for a few years. I found that the more extreme anal I watched, the more I liked it. I've seen double fisting, objects, fishies, bottles you name it. I still love it. I can't even look at regular porn anymore its like watching pg rated films. they just dont cut it. The problem is the extreme stuff can only go so far. I think we have seen abuse that the rectum can take. I enjoy anal play myself but not to that extreme I dont think I have the pelvis for it. I think I may be evolving though. I love the fantasy of extreme play but I dont want to ruin the fact that I love the fantasy. Both giving and receiving. I feel that if I were to play it out I may lose the one thing i have left and that is loving the idea yet never experiencing it. I even find myself looking at womens nice asses and wanting to see it gaping open but at the same time I don't because that would ruin my fantasy of it. What do you think

[rushy]

Well, for mine, I'd not go to my grave wondering about it. I think it's fine to act out so long as care is taken so no-one gets hurt.

[Tangerine]

Sometimes our fantasies are linked to our deepest fears (and so they turn us on) and sometimes not.
It's different for each person and even each moment in my opinion.

Aren't we always playing in the dark, not knowing the inner psy patterns that lead our lives muhahahha? (^ ^)



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[minx]

I think maybe you should take a step back and look at something else for a while if you don't want to live the fantasy.

There are some things that really get me off, but I absolutely hate it if it happens and I'm not sure I'd ever let the 'worst' of it happen. I might dream of gang rape and forced stuff, but having a guy try and force anything is really not fun, and its actually quite scary, especially if its a stranger.

But when I play I don't think about that, just like I don't think about condoms, or filed nails, or BO or any of those things, you cross out what you don't like in your fantasies, but then the thought of getting banged by a load of guys without condoms also scares me silly.

Thats the thing with fantasy though isn't it.

Basically only YOU can decide whether its something you want to do. Why not try some bits, and see how you feel? I found a dom who was trying to force stuff, and hated it, and was in pain for days after, it wasn't what I thought it was going to be, so I know that that is something I really don't want in reality, and yet love in fantasy.

Only you know, but in terms of getting more extreme in your fantasy sometimes you need to take a break from it so it can regain some shock value.

Does that make any sense? I've not been out of bed very long!
xxx

[analease]

Sometimes things should really stay a fantasy.

Personally, i have lived out a couple of fantasies and have lost the high that i used to get thinking about them which really disappointed me.

But as one fantasy becomes a reality you will tend to find that another fantasy will take its place

[prolaptotron]

aha but what if your fantasy is fullfilling your fantasy? what then? eh?

am i blowing your minds yet.

[Truly]

^^Not even close.

And desensitization only occurs through lack of expansion in the mind. Just change variables in YOUR mind how you think about a certain thing: no need to even change the variables. The best way to do this is through cognitive association techniques. Am I blowing YOUR MIND, now?

[fun_e_gy]

all of your opinions have been great. I like the idea that fantasies can be best left as so or I can live it to see if it as euphoric as it looks. I have a lady friend who tries with me now. It's her fantasy to fist me. I love the idea but it gets a little uncomfortable but it still turns me on. She likes me to foot fuck her. That turns her on. It's like I know no boundaries anymore. What a strange feeling.

[curiousboy]

^^Not even close.

And desensitization only occurs through lack of expansion in the mind. Just change variables in YOUR mind how you think about a certain thing: no need to even change the variables. The best way to do this is through cognitive association techniques. Am I blowing YOUR MIND, now?

You are not blowing our mind....only our vocabulary (not mine, I got a good translating program). I know what you mean and basically think you are right, but toughts are not matematic formulas and the mind is not a blackboard. To change your cognitive associations you need differenf cognitions too (emotions, smellings, tactile sensations and testosterone)....not just the associacions.
For the rest I think Minx is hitting the point!

an emotionally vivid,
cb Edited April 17, 2007 by curiousboy

[prolaptotron]

from now on, instead of trying to reason logically with truly, i will turn his own formidable powers of retardation against him;- for instance, by simply hilighting the most halfwitted section of any of his posts, and thus holding it up to public scrutiny, he may be encouraged to actually think before he begins mashing away at his drool soaked keyboard whilst attempting to join a few irrelevant words together into some sort of context.

And desensitization only occurs through lack of expansion in the mind. Just change variables in YOUR mind how you think about a certain thing: no need to even change the variables. The best way to do this is through cognitive association techniques. Am I blowing YOUR MIND, now?

ROFLCOPTERS!