How to describe our "fetish"??

[Vore]

How would one describe the fetish we share on here - the sort of genre of fetish that includes fisting, anal fisting, gaping, large toys, giving/taking anal pleasure - without specifically describing it??

I.e. a succinct way of describing it so that someone else with similar tastes would understand that sort of tastes one was referring to, but without being so blatant that everyone could know the gory details?? The sort of thing you could tell a mate "oh I like a bit of xxxx" without having to reveal that what you really like is 69ing a chick when you've both got your hands up each others ass...

"fetish" is too vague, includes everything from bestiality to roleplay.

"kinky sex" is too vague for the same reason.

"body exploration" could be right, but could also include modification and stuff.

anything with "anal" "fisting" "huge toys" "gaping" etc etc is far too obvious and blatant.

Actually maybe "kinky penetrations" is the best I can think of, but even that is a bit too blatant...

Ideas please.

[SavageKen]

WE (Including myself) are a Bunch of twisted Individuals!!! Some are just plain sick!!!!! BUT IT SURE FEELS GOOD!!!!!!

Ken

[anllover]

"sex that pushes the limits"

[minx]

I've always just described it as liking a bit of kink, or just really dirty sex. It covers a multitude of sins and to the uninitiated it could be anything. If someone really wants to know then I might tell them, and certainly if they were looking likely as a sexual partner. I know what you mean though, it's certainly easier for people to describe more vague preferences.

I so should start posting in the past tense.

[Tangerine]

If you don't name the body part, ie the anus/anal/asshole, i don't know how to express it PERFECTLY .
Maybe you should wear THIS ? (^ ^)

[Vore]

Tangerine, yeah that's the one, the epitome of subtlety I might get it on a t-shirt. Or possibly not...

I do think with "kinky penetrations", that likely implies anal in it....hopefully the plural implies many orifices will be involved

"sex that pushes the limits"

- not bad, there is definitely an element of limit pushing there. But that could equally describe many other things. Limit-pushing could be the limits of pain or the limits of what sort of animals or the limits of complicated roleplay....

I've always just described it as liking a bit of kink, or just really dirty sex.

- again that's quite vague, okay it captures that one is (or was) kinkier and into more fetish stuff, but that's still such a broad range and it's quite possible to be into one area of that and completely disinterested in another area....


It's not easy is it?? I'm after a description where someone with similar tastes would know what you mean, but where you wouldn't be revealing too much to the layman.

[gninori]

Tangerine, yeah that's the one, the epitome of subtlety I might get it on a t-shirt. Or possibly not...

I do think with "kinky penetrations", that likely implies anal in it....hopefully the plural implies many orifices will be involved

- not bad, there is definitely an element of limit pushing there. But that could equally describe many other things. Limit-pushing could be the limits of pain or the limits of what sort of animals or the limits of complicated roleplay....
- again that's quite vague, okay it captures that one is (or was) kinkier and into more fetish stuff, but that's still such a broad range and it's quite possible to be into one area of that and completely disinterested in another area....
It's not easy is it?? I'm after a description where someone with similar tastes would know what you mean, but where you wouldn't be revealing too much to the layman.

every description given in a particolar jargon tends to be known around after a while
so happened for golden shower or kaviar or second channel or rear door etc...
my motto for my assplay brethen would be: mind the GAP(e): Great Anal Penetrations (or whatever the fantasy bids for those letters )

[a-licker]

backdoor (or anus) stimulation's

[Guest qotsa909]

unless i'm very naive, i think this is the main forum or website for people like us and so i propose that we are all 'RBBs', kinda like S&M but better obviously!

not an ideal solution but suitably cryptic?

[Vore]

Thanks for the replies...

every description given in a particolar jargon tends to be known around after a while
so happened for golden shower or kaviar or second channel or rear door etc...

True... Although over time those jargon terms will be become pretty blatant even to people not into them...

Is there any conventional jargon yet for our fetish?? Apart from the very obvious terms, that is.

my motto for my assplay brethen would be: mind the GAP(e): Great Anal Penetrations (or whatever the fantasy bids for those letters )

Hmmm, lol, the initials alone are subtle enough, probably too subtle...

backdoor (or anus) stimulation's

I think that is simultaenously too blatant (i.e. it says too clearly I like ass), and too vague (i.e. anus stimulation could just be anal sex or a little fingering or whatever, and "our fetish" includes more than that, yes??). At least tho it implies it goes both ways (giving and taking).

unless i'm very naive, i think this is the main forum or website for people like us and so i propose that we are all 'RBBs', kinda like S&M but better obviously!

not an ideal solution but suitably cryptic?

That's good thinking, but I don't think RBB is sufficiently widely known to be recognised easily enough. I only heard about it last year.

The thing is, S&M is a good term for their fetish, it implies a lot of possibility without having to say too much about yourself and what you like. I can imagine saying to a mate down the pub "Oh yeah I don't mind a bit of S&M, it's kinda fun" without feeling too embarrassed, and equally saying it to a girlfriend and knowing that if she's into it too then we could get nice and kinky with it.

What I want is a similar term for our stuff...

(Yes I am being quite fussy about this but I've seen some of you guys are smart enough about the fetish scene to ponder on these matters ).

[minx]

I think you won't get an answer for all the above reasons. I think provided the person is open to the idea (sorry can't find another phrase!) then you can get a good idea as to whether they're going to run a million miles in the opposite direction or not.

[Guest qotsa909]

and i think 's&m' is such an umbrella term that it can be used without embarrassment by anyone and their granny- any term for what we enjoy would never gain such social acceptance because our particular fetish is relatively narrow and is always bound to offend someone in some way

i think any term that might be adopted is only ever going to work like a 'masonic' thing i.e. those in the know recognize and acknowledge it and those who don't remain oblivious- and i for one enjoy being outside most peoples terms of reference!

[Dats]

You could always say "speleology" or "spelunking"

[Vore]

You could always say "speleology" or "spelunking"

Hah, that's the sort of term, that if it was established and recognised as referring to someone into, well, orifices and penetrations and pushing things in that way, would actually be a really good term, i.e. it sums up a genre without too graphic.

and i think 's&m' is such an umbrella term that it can be used without embarrassment by anyone and their granny- any term for what we enjoy would never gain such social acceptance because our particular fetish is relatively narrow and is always bound to offend someone in some way

Yes I think you're right there. It is an umbrella term because it is broad, and does not automatically come with the assumption that you're into S&M of a particular extremity. So it's easy to use to give a general impression without revealing too much about oneself.

Whilst our fetish, it already has a certain level of extremity AND a certain specificness to it...

I suppose people who are into watersports or scat or animals or whatever are in the same boat. I mean, watersports, IMO, it's less extreme that full blown anal fisting, but there's no real way to hint at the genre without revealing fully you like being drenched in piss. Hmmm.

[minx]

Or you could just try and bed whoever you like and see what they think when they get there?

[anllover]

Or you could just try and bed whoever you like and see what they think when they get there?

now that is a great idea and sounds very fun.

[apa0]

I know it is a sub-set definition but the first thing that comes to mind for me is 'Stretching'.
I also have a large gauge genital piercing and I call that stretching as well (more painful btw).

This way its ambiguous enough in mixed company to discuss. If they say stretching what? Put thumb to forefinger and that explains it without words.
(at least that's my style)

[minx]

But stretching is just an obvious one isn't it? Surely that's even more obvious than just saying "fisting". I know I've had to go into more detail before now about fisting but doubt it would leave any room manouvre if you said stretching?

[curiousboy]

Dilating?

[Guest qotsa909]

^^^^
yes, altho i always liked the 'french' version, dilatation

[Vore]

Or you could just try and bed whoever you like and see what they think when they get there?

Part of the natural way of things, yes. But having realised the role of my....tastes....I'm trying to clarify it, and find a way to communicate to others...

As for stretching/dilation, as well as fairly obvious, that for me is one aspect of things, not the whole (hole) nor the main aspect even.

I would say, in my tastes anyway, giving anal fisting is the pinnacle, the centre, the fulcrum, and around that: vaginal fisting, large toys, gaping, taking anal fisting, stretching, rimming, taking toys, giving toys and cock at once....

Basically like, "here we are, let's get naked, get our bits right out....we've got three holes, one cock, four hands, two mouths, loads of toys and loads of lube - let's see what we can do, how far we can go, what fun we can have!"*

* - Just need to summarise this in a tasteful catchphrase Edited January 30, 2009 by Vore

[soetep]

,Back in the eighties there was this sticker action in Belgium (and apparently at least also Germany) that showed a red heart on the background saying "a heart for children".

So to my surprise in the last scene of some porno flic of Damiano I see this same sticker on the back of a car or something. It mentioned "Ein herz für arschlösser" or something. For your information: all daring porno was dubbed in German...Dutch being very close to German.

If you'd make a sticker like that with "a heart for rosebuds" you would be very damn near the message you 'd like to bring...although maybe 99,99% of the people reading it would think you have green fingers...