Hey everyone, just finished my stretching sesh for tonight and wanted to post something before I forget.
I've been following the advice from MrBumCum, which was linked to by Wr876. The advice for beginners is basically that you shove a toy up your ass and leave it there for a while. MBC also recommends using a finger or small toy to pull at each part of your sphincter as you slowly work your way around your ring, but my internal sphincter is still really tight, so I just use the largest toy I can fit at least 3 inches or so of. I aim for at least 30 minutes, but I do go for longer if I'm up to it.
As of now, I can fit the typical duck-bill/cone shaped hand recommended to those starting fisting up to about the second knuckle. If I exclude the thumb though, I can get all the way to the last knuckle. Very gratifying! I can also now fit a finger without any lube or warmup, which tells me what I'm doing is working. My lips have swollen somewhat, which Tim said might happen, but I don't mind them at this level. Kinda fun to watch it inflate before I get to work. (I record my sessions, both because the camera lets me see what's happening down there, and it also lets me see which technique or toy had the most impact. I'd highly recommend it to those just getting started at this!)
Also wanted to post a few tidbits I've learnt along the way for anyone who is also a beginner and would like to follow along:
START SMALL! I used this tutorial by LaraJuicy to get my first finger in. At that point, just get used to having a single finger inside. Swirl it around a bit, have a good explore. After that, I moved up to a toy that was roughly the size of my middle finger. Again, just get used to having it in there. Push it in and out a few times. When you're ready, try and push it in as far as you can. Obviously, stop as soon as it becomes uncomfortable, but you might want to leave it where it became uncomfortable unless it's a real sting, because that discomfort might be from your rectum being stretched out.
EXPERIMENT WITH ANGLES! Even just looking at an anatomical diagram, it's easy to see that the rectum already has some twists and turns to it. Factor in genetics and the current state of your anus and you get very unique buttholes. Personally, to get anywhere, I need to angle the toy down, towards my tailbone, to get past my prostate. Then, I need to turn left or right, depending on my position, to get it in nice and deep. If you're struggling to get anything in deep, try a wide range of angles. You may be surprised what you can fit! I know I was.
MAKE A ROUTINE AND STICK TO IT! At the moment, I'm doing a session every other night. The night with no sessions is just to let my hole recover from any mistakes I may have made during play the previous night. I believe this is one of the major contributors to stretching my hole out. Your butthole isn't used to having stuff that large put into it, and it's gonna try and tighten itself back up. You cannot let that happen if you want to keep your progress.
LEARN HOW TO CONTROL YOUR MUSCLES! There's several ways to manipulate your anus with your muscles, and each way has a different effect. I find it useful to try and assign a kind of "shape" to each way I can move my anus, which lets me replicate it. For example, to open up my ass and take something deeper, I need to picture my ass as a rectangle that is slowly expanding. I don't know why that works, but it does, and it could work for you too.
GET SOME PILLOWS I find I'm the most comfortable and able to access my hole easier if I've got some pillows propping up my back, so my back is closer to sitting straight up, and I can curl my butt forward and up without getting back pain. You'll want firmer pillows than you might be used to, and you'll want to focus on lumbar and head support.
USE MORE LUBE! I don't care if your hole is already slathered and slippery, you need more lube. Seriously, whatever amount of lube you think you need, you need more than that. My rule of thumb for toys is to rub the lube on in a jerk off motion, and you've got enough when the toy glides in your hand. You want whatever you're putting up there to be as friction-less as possible.
GO SLOW!!! I cannot stress this enough. You will not be able to pop your rose out in your first session, or your fifth, or your tenth. So on and so forth. You are not a pornstar. You might think you've got the mechanics of how rosebutts and prolapsing works, but trust me, you don't know shit. Without the proper amount of stretching to build up a resting gape, you will tear your sphincter if you try to open up and push out your rose, and that just means it's gonna be longer between play sessions, which will set you back. Set a small, manageable goal, such as fitting a toy slightly bigger than the last, or fitting something deeper than you're used to, and set a time limit. I try and wrap up whatever I'm doing after about an hour has passed. Something I noticed is I kinda get addicted to fucking my hole during vigorous sessions, and that time limit stops me from getting too excited and tearing my hole with something too big.
DON'T USE GLASS, YOU MORON! I cannot believe this might need to be said, but I've been reading back through the forum during idle moments, and apparently a lot of deeply stupid people think this is a great idea. Glass is brittle, and if it breaks, it's likely gonna tear up your rectum so badly that you'll need an ER visit, pronto. You do not want to be Jar Guy. No one wants to be Jar Guy.
Personally, I'd be almost fine with just taking this a bit further to the point where I can fit two fingers unlubed, but I know that wouldn't satisfy me. I ain't stopping til' I see the inside of my ass! Hopefully, that insane ramble helps someone. Looking forward to being a long-term participant in this forum!