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@Upthebutt I agree being up front is important but when would be the right time? I feel if I tell them before we meet i will never get any dates. During the first date I might not get a second date. Before we have sex they might change their mind. After we have sex might be looked at as being dishonest. I want to be upfront and honest about it but i feel like im hurting my chances if I do so. I like your idea of asking her about her kinks. I guess my best bet is on the first date. Feel the girl out and then make the move ask her about her kinks in bed and wait for her to ask me mine. Be upfront that I'm looking for a girl who is okay with fisting me and see what happens. I'm trying to setup another date for tonight and I already have one for tomorrow night. Ill give it a try and report back the results. Thanks.

I've though about waiting that long but I feel it would be dishonest to do so. That after 6 months it might devistate the other person to find out i have a secret side to me that I've been hiding from them.

Need advice on how telling woman i like to be fisted. In short I signed up to bumble, put a pic of myself up and did not say anything about my gender or sexual orientation or the fact that I love playing with my ass. Im bisexual and some what bi gender. I signed up 2 days ago and have been overwhelmed with the number of woman reaching out to me. I just got home from my first date and I had a great time but I know that very few girls will want to be with a guy who likes to be fisted and can take a 16 inch dildo lol. My question is when do I break the news that I like having my ass played with? My end goal is a relationship with a woman who will accept and embrace me for who i am. Hear are the options i can think of. What are your thoughts??? 1. Don't tell her until we had sex a few times. 2..tell her right before we have sex for the first time. 3. Tell her on the first date. 4. Tell her before the first date.

Lots of lube and practice. Also a good top can help you relax and open wider. I find face down ass up with the top behind me helps me to relax and take it. Lastly try fisting. I find a big fist will push my limits and open me up.

To me it's just part of playing with big toys or fist. I must admit i hate the feeling and its hard to find pleasure when it feels like you are being punched in bladder. I always do my best to pee as much as I can before starting but it's never enough. Plus i find that after I start playing its a lot harder to pee. It's like once my hole is stretched I can't pee and will try for 10 minutes with no luck some times. I have never been able to let go and just pee while fucking myself but it does sound like a fun way to orgasm if you are into it. I would talk to your girlfriend about it and see what will work best for her. She might be cool with you pissing uncontrollably. If not maybe schedule in a pee break every 20 to 30 minutes to give your body time to relax and piss it out. Lastly and i only bring this up as i truly hate that feeling and it can ruin your night as you are trying to enjoy the fist and all you can feel is your bladder being punched. Drugs, with the right drugs you will forget that you have to pee and can concentrate on enjoying the fist. Play safe and always listen to your body signal when to stop.

Finally someone read it. To me using your mother's huge dildo as your first dildo has to be the most unusual thing anyone could have in their ass. This was 18 years ago so its hard to say exactly but it was huge. I would guess a length of 11 or 12 inches and a diameter between 2.25 and 2.5 inches. It was the smallest out of the 4 or 5 she had in the draw next to her bed with the bigger ones having a diameter of around 3 inch. It had the usual cock shape to it and was rather firm. Getting the head in was the hardest thing. I remember struggling with it and the pain thinking to myself i made it this far, i have to go all the way and get it in. I did and fucked myself to an amazing orgasm before putting it back, lol. I never talked to my mother about it or about sex but considering she had a huge dildo collection I would guess she is a bit of a freak. I would guess she used her toys in both holes, DP. I never saw her or talked about it but i do have a fantasy of finding a couple that will treat me like their little daughter. The couple would pretend to be my mommy and daddy while using and abusing my hole.

I had the same toy and stopped using it for that reason. It was just too hard and ridgid to play that deep. For me it was the middle knuckle that would cause me the most pain. I think you could develop an anal fissure or tear but im not a doctor.

I would stay away from anything hard like a cucumber and stick with soft toys from sites like mr hankys toys and square peg toys. Use lots and lots of jlube and play as much as you feel comfortable with. I used to play every day or every other day to get best results. I find if I dont play for 3 or 4 days I start to tighten up. By playing 4 to 6 times a week you can really open up. However, don't over do it. It's easy to over do it if you don't give yourself a break from time to time and always listen to your body. It knows when to stop and rest. Also, if you can find a top that will help a lot. For quicker play and clean up time fiber supplements and cutting out red meat helps me.

Using lidocaine or benzocaine on your asshole will cause it to go blue from lack of oxygen. Maybe that's what it is.

With weed and poppers self control is usually not an issue. It's like beer, for most people it's just a drink but for some they have no self control and become an alcoholic. With the drugs im talking about self control is an illusion that unusually leads to your distruction. Sure a hand full of people can keep it somewhat under control but for most people it will distroy you from the inside and outside.

I will admit, i have a drug problem. I like sex and I like drugs but when i mix the 2 it's the best thing in the world for me. I love to get high, play with my pussy and cock for hours. Been like that for 20 years now with weed. I added poppers into the mix about 10 years ago. Now im working on multiple orgasms when using my fucking machine with harder drugs while on chaturbate.com. However at the end of the day all that makes me is a drug addicted sex addict. I highly recommend staying away from harder drugs. It's not for everyone and it ruines most people's lives. I wish i did not do it but i have my own problems that I'm seeing someone about. Given that, you are an adult. You can easily google gay party drugs, do your research and buy some. Just keep in mind for most people there's no going back. It could be as little as 2 years before you end up either dead, in jail or rehab while loosing everything you have in the process. Everyone is different when it comes to drugs. I do my best and make 100k a year in the states. I cant help to wonder if I did not have my issues and my drug problems how far could I have gotten in life. I know for some people 100k is a lot but i feel like I could have made 10 times that amount easily if I was "normal". Instead I suffer mentally and physically everyday while struggling to never give up. I'm short be an adult and make your own choice. Always make sure you fully research and understand what you are getting yourself into before you start. Lastly, with all the drugs I do the best feeling i get is when I force myself to do 60 minutes of cardio on the elliptical at the gym and when i do things outside of sex and drugs. I look forward to when I can be clean and happy.

I go on chaturbate.com and they tend to bend the rules if you are making them money. A good example are girls who squirt. Its really piss and it's against the rules but the money is good so they let it happen.

Lucky girl. Wish I could be her.

I never told anyone this. I was 18 and still getting used to the fact that i like to play with my ass. I was too nervous to go to the sex shop and buy a dildo and was trying things i could find around the house to fuck myself with. This was before you could buy a dildo online. I tried all the normal stuff and was disappointed with the size and shape of them. Then one day I remembered the we have this pool toy that i could try. https://www.ebay.com/itm/NEW-Original-Vintage-11-5-SwimWays-Toypedo-Gliding-Underwater-Torpedo-Pool-Toy-/254344989648 I found it outside by the pool. Took it inside and cleaned it. I could not get over how big it was. It was way bigger than what I was used to. I lubed it up and tried. The stretch was intense and for days I struggle getting past the hump but once I did the orgasm was insane. I knew at that point I needed a dildo from the sex shop. Not any normal dildo but a huge fucking one. My anxiety still prevented me from doing going to the sex shop and buy one. One day I broke down when my parents were at work and went into my parents room. I found my mom's dildo collection and wow were they huge. I took one of the smaller but still huge toys, cleaned it and went into my room and fucked myself with it. It was like unlike anything I could have imagined. The shape the size the feeling of it as i fucked my hole was out of this world. I came like a rocket fucking my ass with my mother's dildo. When it was over and I was covered in my own cum I felt happy but ashamed. I cleaned the toys and put it back. I think i did it 2 or 3 times before my mother noticed something was up and my parents started locking their door while at work. Now after getting a taste of it all i could think about was getting a toy of my own. It drove me mad and I knew my only option was to drive to the sex store. I walk into the sex shop and there are dildos everywhere. I find a big 14 inch dildo on a bottom rack and pick it up. It was flexible and had a nice fat round head. I walked to the counter and bought it. I took it home, smoked more weed and fucked myself to an amazing orgasm. The rest is history.

That's what I've noticed as well. Sometimes tho the look on her face makes me think she does more.

I've never seen any videos and could say for sure she was high on something. Could you please link an example and time window? Also what do you think is her party flavor of choice?

7Siswet is my favorite. If i could come back as a girl I would pick her. She's beyond sexy and she loves being herself. You can see how happy she is with a fist in her ass and a vibarator on her clit.

Ducky, you kind of answered your own question. You have to eat well if you expect to have a clean hole. If you are eating 5 double cheese burgers a day ofcourse you are going to be dirty. You will be amazed how eating healthy and taking fiber supplements can make a huge difference. Also, i find that if i clean myself out too much my insides are not happy and I no longer want to play. I use a little anal douch squirt ball to clean myself. I will only use 5 to 10 squirts. If I'm still dirty after that then I know I'm eating too much or bad food. My diet normally includes lots of fruit and vegetables. Oatmeal, chicken, rice and a little fish. You want to avoide heavy, greasy, fatty, fried foods. Also avoid foods your body can't digest well like nuts. Lastly, i try to plan my play dates. If i know I'm going to play Friday and Saturday night. I'll eat less wednesday and thursday to help make sure that I'm clean. Everyone is different tho so you have to figure out what works best for you. Have fun.

Playing deep and big is never as easy as it sounds. For me it's been a 15 year adventure and you are right its very easy to over do it and bleed or hurt yourself. The key for me is lots of lube and practice. I use a dildo shaped like this to open my second ring. The way it trappers to a point at the end is important. My second ring is about 10 inches in. I get the toy to that point and concentrate on getttig the tip into the entrance of the second hole. From there it's hard to explain. You have to build the connection between your brain and the second hole. I found the best way to do so is to struggle. Get the toy as far as you can get it and work mentally on relaxing and controlling that part of your body while slightly pushing with the toy at the entrance to the second hole. Don't get discouraged if you can't get it past the second ring on the first try or even the first few weeks. Everyone is different with how long it will take them to mentaly relax that part of their body and stretch their second hole without blood. Lots of practice is needed so go slow and take your time. It's not a race. https://www.squarepegtoys.com/shop/longneck-humped/ I reached a point where in about 30 seconds I can take this toy all the way and now use it as my starter toy. The first hump stretches my second ring while the second hump stretches my first ring. It's an intense amazing feeling that I love. As far as the lube goes i use jlube and inject some into my hole. I find this important as it helps to push lube deeper to keep the second hole and beyond nice and lubed. You can never have enough lube. Lastly, once you do get past the second hole remember to go easy at that point. The deeper you get the weaker everything is and the less feeling you have to let you know if somethig is wrong. A good rule of thumb is if you feel a little stretch in your stomach that's okay but if you feel a sharp or dull pain you should stop and consider taking a break. The last thing you want is to tear yourself 12 inches inside and end up in the hospital needing emergency surgery to save your life. Its serious so play safe and have fun. It's not a race but about the journey and enjoying yourself.

For some girls that's all they want. A bed to sleep in, a man to pay the bills and a man to fuck and serve. It's a simple but happy life. Me personally I wish i could come back as a girl. Marry a rich hot guy with a huge cock and be a trophy wife. Well, putting a dick and a 1.5 inch plug in her ass at the same time and expecting to fuck her is asking a lot out of her. Sure it can be done. I can do it but you run the risk of seriously hurting her. If the toy is 1.5 inch and your dick is 2 inch you are asking her to take a 3.5 inch diameter object into her asshole. That takes serious time and practice. Get some big toys from that site i sent you. Hell, at that size you might be able to anal fist her. Have you tried that? That will really open her up. Now that i got a better grasp of what you trying to do just take my previous post and go bigger. Keep going slow and stretch the muscle. When you are playing with objects this large you run the risk of getting an anal fissure or tear. You have to tell her that she needs to listen to her body. If she is in the habit of just pushing through the pain serious damage or death can occur. Ive gotten an anal fissures before and they are no fun. They cause you to bleed every time you play forcing you to take a break so they can heal. Lastly, i personally dont like 2 or more toys in my hole. I tried it in the past and did not like the feeling. I mush rather use a bigger fatter toy. I cant speak from experience as i dont have a pussy but i would think a 3 inch plug in her ass and you fucking her pussy would feel better for her. I wish i could find out...

I like to use patrolum jelly to coat my insides with my fingers first then lots of jlube. You can never have enough jlube. I even inject the jlube into my hole before putting a toy inside. This really get me wet and sloppy which I love and helps me to play longer. I like to keep reapplying lube every 5 to 10 minutes. After a hard night of play I like to put Vermont balg balm on my hole. Trust me when you pull this out after a long night and put some on and in her sore hole she will have a huge smile on her face and thank you. As far as going from 1.5 inch to 2 inch butt plug. What kind of plug are you using? If its a hard plug like plastic or metal stop using it. You want to only use soft silicone toys. They are far superior in every way and way more enjoyable for her. The soft feeling inside you is pure bliss. To get to that 2 inch mark you have a few options. One you can buy a plug between 1.5 and 2 inches. This will give her time to adjust to the new size and get ready for the 2 inch plug. I only play with toys from this site now and they have plugs in all sizes. They are expensive but worth every penny. https://www.squarepegtoys.com/shop/egg-plug/ A trick with plugs is to get her used to the feeling of pushing them out and sucking them in. A good way to do this is have her face down ass up on the bed. Put a plug she can take in and have her push it out using no hands just her butt muscles. Right as it passes the widest point of the plug and it will fall out you are there to hold it in place. While you are holding it in place you tell her good pushing now try and suck it back in. You might have to give a little push to help her but really she needs to be pushing out and relaxing her hole at the same time, kind of like pushing when going to the bathroom. Make her struggle trying to push and take the plug back in with you putting minimal or no pushing force. The struggling to push and suck it back it will help her learn more control of her muscles down there. Do this for 5 to 10 minutes a day and it will quickly become her favorite game. Plus it only gets funner and harder as you go up in size. Another option would be more anal only toy play to stretch her open and more anal forplay. Take 10 to 15 minutes during forplay to slowly open her hole. Lots of lube and start slow. Fingers are a great way to start and will drive her wild as you go from 1 to 2 and maybe 3 or 4 fingers as you stretch her open. The main goal here to so go slow and stretch the muscles. This way later on the muscles are already warmed up making taking something bigger a lot easier. You can also add a toy into the mix after the fingers. I wish i had something like this when I started. It's amazing at opening depth and width in a slow easy way thats very enjoyable. Some people are put off by the size but with the shape and softness of it, it slides right in. Plus once she can get it all in you can use it as a plug. https://www.squarepegtoys.com/shop/slink/ A final option is a toy like these 2. As you slowly work it into her the more of a stretch she will get. In just a few weeks she should be taking 2 inches no problem. https://www.squarepegtoys.com/shop/tree-small/ https://www.squarepegtoys.com/shop/squirm/ Lastly, you are a lucky man to have this opportunity. Enjoy it for as long as it last. I know i would be making home videos of this with her permission ofcourse. Have fun and don't rush her. Everyone stretches at a different rate. You have to find what works with her and keep encouraging her. Verbal encouragement can go a long way to helping. You be amazed how a top telling me good girl, good girl, now relax, breath deep, breath slowly and take my big fist to the elbow. When that happens it feels like I sink into the bed into my happy place while I get my hole wrecked and destroyed. I hope you post the results soon and have fun.

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There's more to life then penis size. Learn to be happy with what you have. Also, knowing how to use it is what counts. You could have a huge dick but if you fuck like a mouse and last 30 sec what's the point.

I have the long pounder and love it. Its big but not too big and really hits my spot when fuck it hard and deep. While its not as wide as you are looking for, for me its a perfect fit. https://www.squarepegtoys.com/shop/pounder/ I also have this one and its lots of fun. I like the double hump design. When i get it all the way in its a very intense feeling as it stretches me out both deep and wide at the same time. https://www.squarepegtoys.com/shop/longneck-humped/ When i want to go for a wide stretch i usually play with this as its really fucking huge and is helping me to take a bigger fist https://www.squarepegtoys.com/shop/monster/ While i like my toys it sounds like you are looking for something a bit thicker. I have had my eye on these for a while and i think you would like either of them in the XXL size https://www.mrhankeystoys.com/online-store/TAINTACLE-THREE-SIZES-p131113037 https://www.mrhankeystoys.com/online-store/DRAGON-FOUR-SIZES-p131113040 https://www.mrhankeystoys.com/online-store/ALIEN-BREEDER-FOUR-SIZES-p131113031

I prefer soft silicone toys when playing that deep. I get mine from square peg toys.