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@Upthebutt I agree being up front is important but when would be the right time? I feel if I tell them before we meet i will never get any dates. During the first date I might not get a second date. Before we have sex they might change their mind. After we have sex might be looked at as being dishonest. I want to be upfront and honest about it but i feel like im hurting my chances if I do so. I like your idea of asking her about her kinks. I guess my best bet is on the first date. Feel the girl out and then make the move ask her about her kinks in bed and wait for her to ask me mine. Be upfront that I'm looking for a girl who is okay with fisting me and see what happens. I'm trying to setup another date for tonight and I already have one for tomorrow night. Ill give it a try and report back the results. Thanks.

I've though about waiting that long but I feel it would be dishonest to do so. That after 6 months it might devistate the other person to find out i have a secret side to me that I've been hiding from them.

Need advice on how telling woman i like to be fisted. In short I signed up to bumble, put a pic of myself up and did not say anything about my gender or sexual orientation or the fact that I love playing with my ass. Im bisexual and some what bi gender. I signed up 2 days ago and have been overwhelmed with the number of woman reaching out to me. I just got home from my first date and I had a great time but I know that very few girls will want to be with a guy who likes to be fisted and can take a 16 inch dildo lol. My question is when do I break the news that I like having my ass played with? My end goal is a relationship with a woman who will accept and embrace me for who i am. Hear are the options i can think of. What are your thoughts??? 1. Don't tell her until we had sex a few times. 2..tell her right before we have sex for the first time. 3. Tell her on the first date. 4. Tell her before the first date.

Lots of lube and practice. Also a good top can help you relax and open wider. I find face down ass up with the top behind me helps me to relax and take it. Lastly try fisting. I find a big fist will push my limits and open me up.

To me it's just part of playing with big toys or fist. I must admit i hate the feeling and its hard to find pleasure when it feels like you are being punched in bladder. I always do my best to pee as much as I can before starting but it's never enough. Plus i find that after I start playing its a lot harder to pee. It's like once my hole is stretched I can't pee and will try for 10 minutes with no luck some times. I have never been able to let go and just pee while fucking myself but it does sound like a fun way to orgasm if you are into it. I would talk to your girlfriend about it and see what will work best for her. She might be cool with you pissing uncontrollably. If not maybe schedule in a pee break every 20 to 30 minutes to give your body time to relax and piss it out. Lastly and i only bring this up as i truly hate that feeling and it can ruin your night as you are trying to enjoy the fist and all you can feel is your bladder being punched. Drugs, with the right drugs you will forget that you have to pee and can concentrate on enjoying the fist. Play safe and always listen to your body signal when to stop.

Finally someone read it. To me using your mother's huge dildo as your first dildo has to be the most unusual thing anyone could have in their ass. This was 18 years ago so its hard to say exactly but it was huge. I would guess a length of 11 or 12 inches and a diameter between 2.25 and 2.5 inches. It was the smallest out of the 4 or 5 she had in the draw next to her bed with the bigger ones having a diameter of around 3 inch. It had the usual cock shape to it and was rather firm. Getting the head in was the hardest thing. I remember struggling with it and the pain thinking to myself i made it this far, i have to go all the way and get it in. I did and fucked myself to an amazing orgasm before putting it back, lol. I never talked to my mother about it or about sex but considering she had a huge dildo collection I would guess she is a bit of a freak. I would guess she used her toys in both holes, DP. I never saw her or talked about it but i do have a fantasy of finding a couple that will treat me like their little daughter. The couple would pretend to be my mommy and daddy while using and abusing my hole.

I had the same toy and stopped using it for that reason. It was just too hard and ridgid to play that deep. For me it was the middle knuckle that would cause me the most pain. I think you could develop an anal fissure or tear but im not a doctor.

I would stay away from anything hard like a cucumber and stick with soft toys from sites like mr hankys toys and square peg toys. Use lots and lots of jlube and play as much as you feel comfortable with. I used to play every day or every other day to get best results. I find if I dont play for 3 or 4 days I start to tighten up. By playing 4 to 6 times a week you can really open up. However, don't over do it. It's easy to over do it if you don't give yourself a break from time to time and always listen to your body. It knows when to stop and rest. Also, if you can find a top that will help a lot. For quicker play and clean up time fiber supplements and cutting out red meat helps me.

Using lidocaine or benzocaine on your asshole will cause it to go blue from lack of oxygen. Maybe that's what it is.

With weed and poppers self control is usually not an issue. It's like beer, for most people it's just a drink but for some they have no self control and become an alcoholic. With the drugs im talking about self control is an illusion that unusually leads to your distruction. Sure a hand full of people can keep it somewhat under control but for most people it will distroy you from the inside and outside.

I will admit, i have a drug problem. I like sex and I like drugs but when i mix the 2 it's the best thing in the world for me. I love to get high, play with my pussy and cock for hours. Been like that for 20 years now with weed. I added poppers into the mix about 10 years ago. Now im working on multiple orgasms when using my fucking machine with harder drugs while on chaturbate.com. However at the end of the day all that makes me is a drug addicted sex addict. I highly recommend staying away from harder drugs. It's not for everyone and it ruines most people's lives. I wish i did not do it but i have my own problems that I'm seeing someone about. Given that, you are an adult. You can easily google gay party drugs, do your research and buy some. Just keep in mind for most people there's no going back. It could be as little as 2 years before you end up either dead, in jail or rehab while loosing everything you have in the process. Everyone is different when it comes to drugs. I do my best and make 100k a year in the states. I cant help to wonder if I did not have my issues and my drug problems how far could I have gotten in life. I know for some people 100k is a lot but i feel like I could have made 10 times that amount easily if I was "normal". Instead I suffer mentally and physically everyday while struggling to never give up. I'm short be an adult and make your own choice. Always make sure you fully research and understand what you are getting yourself into before you start. Lastly, with all the drugs I do the best feeling i get is when I force myself to do 60 minutes of cardio on the elliptical at the gym and when i do things outside of sex and drugs. I look forward to when I can be clean and happy.

I go on chaturbate.com and they tend to bend the rules if you are making them money. A good example are girls who squirt. Its really piss and it's against the rules but the money is good so they let it happen.

Lucky girl. Wish I could be her.

I never told anyone this. I was 18 and still getting used to the fact that i like to play with my ass. I was too nervous to go to the sex shop and buy a dildo and was trying things i could find around the house to fuck myself with. This was before you could buy a dildo online. I tried all the normal stuff and was disappointed with the size and shape of them. Then one day I remembered the we have this pool toy that i could try. https://www.ebay.com/itm/NEW-Original-Vintage-11-5-SwimWays-Toypedo-Gliding-Underwater-Torpedo-Pool-Toy-/254344989648 I found it outside by the pool. Took it inside and cleaned it. I could not get over how big it was. It was way bigger than what I was used to. I lubed it up and tried. The stretch was intense and for days I struggle getting past the hump but once I did the orgasm was insane. I knew at that point I needed a dildo from the sex shop. Not any normal dildo but a huge fucking one. My anxiety still prevented me from doing going to the sex shop and buy one. One day I broke down when my parents were at work and went into my parents room. I found my mom's dildo collection and wow were they huge. I took one of the smaller but still huge toys, cleaned it and went into my room and fucked myself with it. It was like unlike anything I could have imagined. The shape the size the feeling of it as i fucked my hole was out of this world. I came like a rocket fucking my ass with my mother's dildo. When it was over and I was covered in my own cum I felt happy but ashamed. I cleaned the toys and put it back. I think i did it 2 or 3 times before my mother noticed something was up and my parents started locking their door while at work. Now after getting a taste of it all i could think about was getting a toy of my own. It drove me mad and I knew my only option was to drive to the sex store. I walk into the sex shop and there are dildos everywhere. I find a big 14 inch dildo on a bottom rack and pick it up. It was flexible and had a nice fat round head. I walked to the counter and bought it. I took it home, smoked more weed and fucked myself to an amazing orgasm. The rest is history.

That's what I've noticed as well. Sometimes tho the look on her face makes me think she does more.