Why me?

[chathead2006]

Hello my fellow anal fisting and dilation friends,

I would like to share some thoughts with you that have been bothering me for quite some time.
Did you ever ask yourself where your dirty passion for this extreme hobby comes from?
I can only speak for myself but all my life I have encountered beauty in the weirdest situations,
may it be sex with ugly (at least on the outside) chicks or food so bad that it's very tasty in its own way again (e.g. McDonalds)! Basically I can say that I always had a passion for different, alternative things in life!

Developing the passion for anal fisting and dilation has developed since I was a teenager.
For me personally, it started with the internet, which gave me the opportunity to develop my own sexuality (i was 14) with the whole internet porn guiding me along! I still remember how forbidden and awesome it was to watch the kinkiest shit on the web, well knowing that every "normal" person would probably just be disgusted...
well... why wasn't I disgusted? Actually, seeing anal dilation videos for the first time wasn't very attractive but started questioning myself why those people were doing what they were doing? There had to be something about it!

Then, a couple of years, thousands of "sick" porn vidoes and a hell lot of beautiful and ugly girls I fucked later, I was able to say that the kinkier, the more open minded and twisted the sex, the more pleasing it was!

That led me to trying out things on myself and some girlfriends. A couple of them actually fisted me and I did some other nasty but great stuff to them! However, I sometimes ask myself that: is the act of being anally fisted really so great or is it more the thrill of doing something naughty and forbidden?
Or with a chick that loves you and you love her, is it maybe the "deep" bond that allows you guys to do EVERYTHING together? Was I or am I still maybe just seeking for that? Complete open-mindedness of two souls?

Until today, I have not been able to answer all of those questions but due to some painful experiences I can definitely say that my passion for anal dilation doesn't only come from body pleasures!

What do you guys think? Is it just a natural perversion of the mind or is it the search for something else?

I really hope I will find some sophisticated responses to this.... it might be very interesting!


chathead2006

[Tangerine]

Nice topic but I'm short in time tonite. Of course I wonder why like you
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For myself it's true that sexuals needs come from zillons of years before, sex is life's power, we're part of the Big Thing 'cos of sex .

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I search too for years but with help of various psy I put my finger recently on my deepest anal and SM patterns, created while my oral & anal stage with my mother, œdipian classic yes but with a cute brown costume and anus powerful preminence. Whish to spec my ma ? You bet !
Hope you'll find yours too, it can take a lifetime to do it (^^) Edited July 1, 2008 by Tangerine

[Ladyboy]

It was the quest for prostate orgasms that drove to having anal play a hobbie....from around the age of 14.

The nerve endings in your rectum act in the same way as your mouth when you are hungry and your favourite meal is ready to be eaten...it gets lubricated and becomes an itch that needs to be scratched.

It doesnt mean you need a cock like some people think just a bit of stimulation to get rid of the itch.. The "itching" occurs between the prostate gland to the "rim" which is approx 3-5inches inside your anus.

The pleasure between that space can be overwhelming when stimulated as it gets lubricated and expands making you want to fill the space as your anus stretches...but there is no need unless thats what you want to do.

Luv u xxx

[curiousboy]

In my case, i think it`s because I am in love with sex, sex is anciently penetration, one being going inside another, the ying and the yang coalencing together. As a male I tend to be the part that goes inside, but to completely live the sex dimension I also need to be the penetrated part...sometimes.
Beside that I learned over the years to enjoy it and rafined my skills, which comes good when I want to make a woman enjoy anal play.

Keep on playing, pals

cb

[anllover]

I have often wondered very simalar stuff, but as the others say, YES it is fun and feels good. So what if it is kinkier or more taboo. OK maybe that will heighten the moment the first few times or for a while but after sometime the novelty wears off and all you are left with are good feelings.

I just do what feels good and have been frequently for at least 8 years... I think the novelty of the kink or extreme has faded away.

[minx]

Liking your answers...

I'm another who feels like sex is part of some greater thing, well good sex is anyway. I did once find a website that taught that great sex was a pathway to "God" (whatever higher power you want to call this) and that great connective sex was a religious experience. I could actually really go for that and I wouldn't say I don't believe it now in some ways.

What do I think about the original question..

- that I got into anal stuff because it was naughty and because it generally floors guys when you say you like it (ok I was 16/17 and it drove men crazy). It's the whole posh girl getting dirty behind closed doors...it does it for me. It didn't hurt that I actually really enjoyed it mostly too after doing my own experimentation before letting anyone near me. I remember the first time I actually had anal sex and who did it...I think the same guy who first fisted me as it happens. Dunno, it's hazy.

- For me I don't think intimacy has much to do with it given my past lifestyle although intimacy might be borne from the behaviour of a partner, respect and care etc. Eroticism is a big thing too.

- As for twisted sex...I get that. For me it's the all out dirty hot sweaty, generally very messy and totally exhausting sex that makes me think "wow". Unfortunately it was rare before and now is non-existant but I've got some amazing memories. The sort of sex where you look like you've drunk several bottles of wine after. Totally exhausting and totally satisfying. Missing it now! I don't think that liking perverted sex is different, I think it's the quest to find someone where it clicks so well that nothing is out of bounds and you just don't think about what you're doing because you're too busy doing it...in fact now I've written it and thought about it I'm 99% convinced that this is the key, it's not how perverted or kinky it is its the fact that you have to click with someone to do it and thats what makes it so good. Vanilla sex can be as mindblowing when the same connection is there so it has to be that chemistry rather than the actions...

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[minx]

Sorry had to do this in two so I could read what I'd written and because my laptop is running slow.

Where was I?

er...

Oh yes, anal play when you're on your own. I don't know basically. This is where men and women probably part company because of the different mechanisms for sexual pleasure. Anal play alone used to get me off because of the fantasies associated with it for the most part, I'm sure. It was also the next thing to push me over the edge when I'd become desensitised to pretty much everything else. If I'm honest it was getting dangerous the lengths I'd have gone to for that extra push on some days. Anyway, that's by the by and totally irrelevant here.

Actually I give up here, I can't get my head round what I wanted to say.

[curiousboy]

Well, we are deviating a bit from the original topic subject, but let`s follow the stream..

... I think the novelty of the kink or extreme has faded away.

The thrill as a novelty has faded long time ago, in my case, I guess....
I do hop from one dimension to the other to avoid get bored. Like.. I forget about anal play for long periods sometimes and then for some reason or input I have a kinky period again. As for food: even you like fish, if you eat it too often you become not to like it anymore, you might never hate it but you won`t love it and enjoy it like before. As a countryman from told me once: "Anca el pi bel bal stufa" (even the nicest dance bores).

Liking your answers...

I'm another who feels like sex is part of some greater thing,

This is my opinion too...Orgasm is one of the few magic acts left to humanity. A link to the all...
"La petite mort", French for "the small death", is a reference for sexual orgasm...

Kisses and hugs to my pals,

cb