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There are any number of ways to progress to a wider and wider hole. Most will agree that one should advance gradually, maybe 1/2" (12 cm) in circumference at a time. One can spend a lot of money on toys following that advice, and it will be difficult to find the right size toy when needed. You can save a bundle by using veggies of increasing size, or do as I did. When I got so that the Tantus A-bomb (2-1/2" plug) slipped in easily, I bought the inexpensive Doc Johnson "Giant Penis with Balls". It was a little much to handle at first, but I mastered it in a couple of weeks. It's very smooth and swishy making it fairly easy to push in despite its 3" girth. I really didn't like it that much -- it's smooth surface provides very little stimulation -- but it was perfect as a platform for further stretching. I would stretch an ankle sock over the dildo and then apply a heavy duty condom. The sock increased the diameter of the dildo slightly, but also added texture that added intense pleasure on insertion. Over time I was able to handle that dildo with 10 socks which increased the circumference to 11.5" (from 9.5") which is where I am today, and as far as I intend to go. That's way more than is needed for fisting. At that point you will likely be looking at increasing your depth skill. Try not to focus too much on achieving a width or depth goal, though. Rather, enjoy the journey. It's good to stretch out the process of stretching out your ass. Pleasure should be the goal, first and foremost. Play safely.

I've been into anal play for about 4 years now. I got started in my 20s, took a long, long break, and am now back to it (60s). In my youth, I had concerns about doing myself permanent damage. Now, I'm perfectly at ease about it, having advanced to 10" circumference (Cyclops) and 13" depth (Dick Rambone). I look forward to every occasion when my wife agrees to fist me. When I got back into stretching, I went through an initial stage where I seemed to have lost good control of my anal sphincter muscle. After ass play, it would be loose and leaky for a couple of days. Deep cleaning of my colon prevented unwelcome accidents. My early concerns about lasting damage reappeared. I also experienced minor bleeding as the stretching process proceeded. Nothing of great concern, but an indication that my rectal physiology was changing. With insights gained from reading posts on this forum and elsewhere, I/we continued to engage in the "sport". What happened over the ensuing months and years is that my anal tract adapted to the routine of regular stretching and fisting activity. Even without a strong commitment to Kegel exercises (I did them sporadically), my sphincter grew stronger. It "learned" to relax and open on command, but also to return to seal off the rectum within a couple of hours of an intense period of stretching and pounding. Even farts, which in the beginning were frequent, loud and base, returned to normal in time. I goes to show how the body can adapt. Today, there are times when I miss the days when my butt would hang open, oozing and begging for more stimulation. Anal play -- stretching and fisting -- is a wonderful way to continue sexual activity into one's later years when virility naturally drops off, even as one's sexual urges linger. If you like anal play, and you follow the go-slow advice repeated many times on this forum, you most likely will not suffer debilitating continence in your later years. In fact, you may actually avoid the affliction altogether.

[quote name='zero lagers' date='07 July 2013 - 10:05 AM' timestamp='1373209516' post='839315'] I've been playing for probably more years than both of you, and my ass is just as tight as it was when I was in my 20s. Sometimes I wish it would get looser (my current fisting partner would probably agree). [/quote] I was into anal play in my twenties before the internet and readily available plugs and dildos. I didn't push my limits then, as I had no idea what was safe, and I had concerns that I was doing myself permanent damage. I could take a 2-1/2" diameter toy at the most. I remember my physician doing a prostate exam back then. I had forgotten to consciously squeeze my sphincter muscle when he inserted his finger, so my well-trained ring just opened up. The look on his face! I should have been embarrassed, but I wasn't really. I got away from anal play when I met my wife and sex play turned in a different (more normal) direction. I didn't put anything bigger than my index finger up my ass for 25 years. I experienced no negative effects from anal stretching in the years that followed. Not even an inflamed hemorrhoid. I'm in my sixties now and my wife has gone through the change. She's no longer hungry for sex, can go months without it, but accommodates me the best she can. About 3 years ago, I accidentally stumbled onto this site and I was fascinated by the subculture that I once experimented with myself. Yes, I was a lurker here. I decided to try out anal play again so I bought a butt plug right off, not wanting to fool around with homemade stuff as I once did. I was considering the Tantus Severin silicone plug, and decided to buy the medium size and progress slowly. The Tantus Severin medium went right in! It was quite clear that my ass had been permanently stretched from play 25 years before. So I soon bought the larger Tantus A-bomb butt plug which is 2-1/2" in diameter. Could still I take that size as I once did? I found that I could not handle it. It was too painful to insert it. My hiatus from anal play did result in a partial return to normal of my anal sphincter. It took about a month to get it in, and the feeling was intense. My whole body would go into a sweat and my mind seemed on the verge of fainting. I loved it. I advanced over a couple of year's time to 3" diameter and even got my fist in at one point. Ass-play is my favorite sexual activity today. My wife even participates by fisting me which is a special treat and very satisfying to me and to her, as well. About 6 months ago I was scheduled for a colonoscopy, so I thought it best to lay off anal play for a couple of months prior to my appointment. I do kegel exercises to keep my muscle in shape, but not religiously. Still, at the time of my procedure, my ass was quite tight and there was no comment from my doctor about my butt hole except that he found no sign of swollen hemorrhoids, and he was able to inspect the whole of my colon without difficulty. When I got back to ass play after that, I was amazed at how much my sphincter had regressed in just a couple of months. I have not returned to my previous maximum stretch diameter as of today. I'm more interested in depth play now and have lost the motivation to return to my former width accomplishment. The point I'm trying to make is that, although one's hole never returns to its virgin state, it will tighten up considerably if not exercised on a regular basis. At least, that's my experience. That assertion assumes that stretching is done gradually so as not to tear any muscle tissue. That's especially true when starting out. Over time, my anal and rectal tissues seem to have toughened up and can take more abuse. I rarely see any sign of bleeding anymore, and my recovery times after a good long session are only about 12 hours these days. I'm comforted to know that there's no price to pay for my "hobby". Any concerns I once had about that are completely behind me (no pun intended).

[quote name='bABynaes' date='10 February 2013 - 08:27 AM' timestamp='1360506442' post='735046'] So I'm beginning to wonder if I'll be able to take this whole plug. My pelvis seems very narrow and there is a lot of pressure when I get to the wider part of the plug. Any thought or suggestions? [/quote] The Tantus A-Bomb is 2-1/2" in diameter. When I was starting out, that same plug would not go in either. You might want to drop down to a 2" plug and work your way up. At 3 inches, I was convinced my pelvic bones would not allow further dilation, but, in time, I worked up to 3-1/2" diameter solid round. Don't give up, but take the stretching process slowly. You don't want to tear any tissue.