minx

It is very very scary. I keep waiting for his real mummy to come and pick him, can't quite believe he's mine sometimes. It just still feels like something someone else does and not something I could do.

QUOTE(mxdil @ Jun 6 2008, 05:13 PM) [snapback]96443[/snapback] Funny thing you're starting this topic right now. I've got a daughter myself for six months now and it has severely affected our sex life (actually since her pregnancy). Our sex life is near extinct, I'm afraid. But then again, both our lives have been shaken thoroughly and I don't think we're really adjusted to the situation (that also being the main reason why my participation here on the board has gone sub-zero). The thing is, we're both afraid to 'start things up'. It's almost like I don't know what to do anymore... On the other hand, it has'nt really affected my hunger for things up my ass... Only problem is finding the right time to do it with the daughter around (and now I can't smoke any more of the funny stuff in the living room in front of the tv, but have to move to the kitchen or outside, which is annoying whilst 'playing') Congrats on your daughter, you never said! My sex life has been near extinct too as you put it, but tbh I've been quite happy with that mostly! It's absolutely exhausting doing this whole mummy thing so it doesn't surprise me. And yes, finding time around little people is tricky. My only advice is to go back to basics and start all over again. I'm really torn trying to reply to this. It's very odd. On the one hand I want to say she's knackered and cut her some slack but on the other I know where you're coming from. It's a massive massive change, and especially for her. For me - my needs have changed. My confidence has changed, my body has certainly changed. It's a really weird adjustment to make and it's bound to take time. They say it takes 9 months to grow a baby and it takes another 9 months to get over it. I dunno. Hang on in there, it does get easier.

Hello my darlings, I know there may be a fair few who won't want to answer this as it might be too personal a thing to discuss but I'm just wondering how sex has changed for you after you've (your partner ) have had children? For me even my fantasies have changed, I can't block out the unsafe stuff knowing it's just a fantasy, like I used to think about gang bangs and now when I think about that if I go through that scenario then somewhere I have to tell myself about condoms or STD testing and cycle dates and things. It kind of ruins the moment! Also for the first time the other day I tried playing with a plug whilst I was feeling randy and it did nothing. Worse than nothing it actually put me off! Now I know before I gave all "this" up that I was going off anal play probably from overdoing it, but to go from it still hitting the spot to now being nothing is really weird for me. Maybe it's a sub-conscious thing because I know it's not going to be an option any more anyway? Even more bizarre though is the fact that it still gets me off in my fantasies. So... Have your preferences changed after kids? Have your partners preferences changed after kids? Is it just that priorities change and we suddenly grow up? Do we narrow our likes down to the things that are emotionally more important to us (like intimacy rather than a quickie with a stranger?). Just curious. Love to all xx

Real life definitly doesn't fit in to poll categories, especially not when you're as perverted as most of us are. We're all good ty, just given myself cramp having a quick play. Obviously out of practice Think the worst may have happened and I've gone off anal! Not sure I belong on here any more if it has.

I'd say I was indifferent - you don't have an option for that!

I think you will find that even the most careful of us sometimes makes mistakes.

That is a LOT of porn.

Yep there's definitly something intoxicating about the other person being horny, whether it's in the flesh or on the screen. Have to say I really don't like most of the professional porn, I find a lot of it too fake and "nice" and too posed.

Sorry I don't play any more.

It's very evil!!! Although he's not been on for a while, mostly cos he's working. What can I rant about? It's too hot. Things are good for a change. xx

I could have taken that, I'm pretty sure of it.

Allow me to ask a really stupid question...why do you think that the CIA were responsible? Not asking because I know any more (actually considerably less) than you all but I am struggling to see what the benefit would be?

QUOTE(Tangerine @ May 2 2008, 02:02 AM) [snapback]91864[/snapback] Frankly I'm not sure about RQUEEN gender and i don't give a damn' about it Glad it's not just me then. I can see both sides. I'm still inclined to stick with my original views that they knew what they were getting in to and sometimes just don't feel like it. Even you lot of lovely pervs must have occasionally not felt like it!! I don't appreciate or accept the comments about whores not having any other skill though, thank you to whoever that was. It is sometimes a lifestyle choice that brings more benefits than conventional work. I think one of the problems we have when looking at extreme stuff is the fact that the more you watch the more you see and the more it takes to get you off. How many of us started on just anal sex? Does that do anything for you now? No. Same in the industry is my guess, they have to provide for that as always. If I'm not making any sense it's lack of sleep so be nice. xx

Thanks

Wouldn't ever try it because of a risk of permanent damage and possibility of complications with pregnancy. I can't see the cervix not being weakened by being manually forced open. Would definitly challenge the pain receptor thing!!!

I've thought about it but....dunno. Things have changed a lot between us and I don't want to do it to him. I think if I did it would definitly do more harm than good now and I'd have to distance myself from him, which ultimately isn't going to do either of us any good. Not to say it won't change as time goes on of course. It's an option. But then who is going to babysit? I'm on a promise for tonight at any rate...

I've just read most of the Phillipa Gregory books again...it's incredibly well written and researched historical fiction, and it really is hard to know where she's left the truth for story. Now reading Innocent Traitor by Alison Weir.

QUOTE(Minx @ Jan 23 2008, 03:28 PM) [snapback]77323[/snapback] I'm in the mood for a rant...or at least to vent some feelings. 1) My sex drive is back and its horrid 2) My husband is working ridiculous hours and therefore has nothing to do with (1) 3) As per 1 and 2 I want another baby but it can't happen if he's at work or asleep. 4) Had massive fallouts with a load of women on a forum, and whilst I'm inclined to think fuck it and ignore the lot of them its quite upsetting, as is the amount of side-taking and shit stirring thats going on, its all gone quiet now but has the feel of the calm before the storm because its just not finished. Maybe I should just finish it and have done with it. 5) My knee hurts 6) I had 3 cigarettes while my best friend was here. I enjoyed them. I am now steering clear of all shops until the temptation has passed. 7) The temptation as above is no doubt caused by (2) and the fact that he's returned to playing WoW when he's here. 8) Am "hormonally challenged" at the moment which requires chocolate, however chocolate does not help with losing weight which would ease 5 but is also appeasing 6. 9) whole situation going on with money which I thought was further along than it is. Which is very annoying. 10) House is a tip. 11) None of the above would really matter if I was getting enough sex. Not even good sex, just enough. Thanks for listening. Comments welcome (as long as they're nice ones!) Hellllooooooooooooooooooo Do you all miss me? Yeh didn't think so. Thought I'd update my rantings... 1) my sex drive has luckily been AWOL for some time. This in addition to the fact that I don't want to be nekkid in front of anyone but my husband who, lets face it, has seen me in a worse state, means that I've not been too bothered by distinct sex requirement. However I just got really randy but have limited means of solving the matter. 2) Still stands. 3) Still want another baby but on hold due to so called fat reducing medication. It's not working. Well it might be but it means I can't sleep properly when I get a chance and therefore makes me super grumpy and headachey. 4) Still stumbles on but really can't be arsed anymore. Up side is that I have an almost best friend out of it, a position that has been sadly empty since my last one died. 5) My knee no longer hurts!!!!!!!!!! HURRAY! But my hips are fucked. 6) Not smoked since! HURRAY! However feel it might be contributing to grumpiness. 7) No more WoW but mostly because he's working too much! 8) Still hormonally challenged at times but thats women for you. 9) Money bit better than it was. HURRAY! 10) House is a bit messy but it'll do. Dog is blowing her coat so leaves a print of her wherever she's been, and baby is now crawling so is into everything. He has also found his willy which he takes every opportunity to get to know better, not so funny when you're trying to change his nappy but hey ho...its very funny watching him try to pull it off. Didn't realise you all got so fascinated so young! 11) As per 1 I'm not really that bothered about the sex though sure if I was getting some I would be. Miss you all anyway, and miss Minx at times but can't say I'd change it. Hope you're all well and happy. xx

Completely agree with RQueen...and would say it gets me off too. Have been there and done it, and at the end of the day its just a job like any other in a lot of respects. I'm guessing you all have really bad days where you don't want to do something but you grit your teeth and get on with it. Same with sex work. Sometimes you don't fancy it. Plus lets remember you're not always in the mood for someones hand up your arse, even if you were when you agreed to it.

Ahem...some not very nice stories here... Aside from the occasional internal bruising most scary thing was losing a plug...I'd decided to meet someone with it already in place on his orders...only it disappeared. I couldn't feel it at all. When it finally came out it went in the bin. Serves me right for playing wth small toys!

Fuck ME!!!!!!!

What d'ya mean looks like?!!!!

Dee Dee Desire at your service

I often find it quite bizarre that I have such a thing about mens bums. I really cannot get my head round why its such an issue or what to do about it. Not that it really matters anymore but still. I have come across guys who weren't into fisting, my husband being one of them. I dunno really, guess it either floats your boat or it doesn't. ETA: Sorry I should have made clear that I am NOT into fisting men.

Never got munchies just got insatiable. Not very much fun. Addition to small rant: i) very spotty ii) very cold iii) still not getting any but have been at mum and dads iv) baby decided that 3am is the PERFECT time to get up and screams until you give in. He won't nap either and is insisting on constant holding and attention which is even more exhausting than all the above! On the up side I'm going on holiday.