minx

I couldn't get in with the good guy until Tuesday! I've tried explaining to hubby that sex is ok as long as I don't come. He's not having it though.

Love motherhood, helps that whilst my son is an absolute git and into everything he's also exceptionally clever and very very cute (he's with two modelling agencies!). Migraine has only just gone this morning so now just feeling delicate. I did feel a bit better last night but hubby decided to ban any more sex until I've seen the doctor. It's typical that I'd just bought a new egg vibe yesterday morning too!

Things are a LOT more vanilla these days. Sad but true. I've been thinking about going back to work but this would certainly mean I couldn't do that as you can't guarantee that everyone will be crap in bed! And of course it was bigger to start with...He was nearly 8lb and out in 6 minutes (knew that pelvic floor would come in handy one day!) so it was a bit of a shock to the system. In retrospect it's probably a really good job I've not been fisting though tbh cos I've got a "connective tissue disorder" which I didn't realise means prolapse is a serious possibility without adding the joys of fisting to it, and it's been worse since I had boyo so could have unwittingly ended up doing serious permanent damage.

Life can be so unfair. The past couple of times I've had a "good" orgasm I've had a blinding headache come on after. This morning I seriously thought I'd burst a blood vessel in my brain or something It's gone off now but I scared myself silly, called OH in to sit on the bed and talk to me and was trying to work out who I'd want to look after my son! Daft? Maybe. But it's made me realise we need to sort out wills and I'm not actually scared of dying but worried for my baby which is fair enough. Anyway...for someone who loves sex is this not one of the worst things that can happen? I also use orgasm as pain relief and sedative at night so I can get to sleep, but whats the point if I'm going to give myself an even worse headache??? From the looks of it its called Coital Cephalgia. I think I might go and cry.

QUOTE(Tangerine @ Aug 30 2008, 10:02 PM) [snapback]107511[/snapback] Yes Minxie but sometimes you HAVE to live your fantasies to understand their real meanings High class thread Anll (^ ^) Absolutely sometimes you have to do it to find out it's not quite what you thought it was going to be.

Vicks vapour rub always used to do the trick for me

http://www.youboob.it/video_porn_sex_9012_xxx_youboob.php Correct me if I'm wrong but I've not found much around that's as intense as this. Sorry no idea if its a repost! x

QUOTE(anllover @ May 21 2008, 08:23 PM) [snapback]94535[/snapback] had the same jail one but not sure it would ever play out right in RL. From experience I'd say for those of us with half a care to safety and wellbeing most fantasies don't play out right in RL.

I wonder if it's because somehow we all still want sex to be something of trust in a relationship and the condom/barrier shows up that (mostly) it's sex with someone we don't know enough to go without? Dunno. The thought of sex with a stranger WITHOUT a condom terrifies me but then I don't like looking at it either.

Well I've not done anything yet. Taking it very slowly, partly because there's a bit of me that isn't sure still, and for the first time ever I'm nervous!

Well my good intentions didn't last long. I'm arranging to do a single "work" day in a few weeks. I can't wait.

Don't shave it completely. Use an electric shaver on the beard trimming setting and it cuts it really short but without the itch. It looks like it's a couple of days regrowth but so what, it's worth it to not itch whilst getting all the benefits. Failing that aspirin dissolved in water and rubbed on with cotton wool is supposed to help the rash, and I've always found aqueous cream to be quite good at soothing, as is aloe vera.

This is just getting better and better... Firstly your original post made it sound as if the testosterone was purely for sexual pleasure which is what has caused the problem. Safe and sane ring a bell? Now you're saying it was prescribed for sexual dysfunction generally and that just happened to be the by-product? I'm fine with that right up until you say you chose for your wife to be at home so you could have sex when the alternative was a stay in hospital?? I get not wanting to be in hospital but so you can have sex? They don't keep people on bed rest for nothing. I'm bowing out of this now I think. I can't imagine my husband having that little care for my health for all his faults, whatever I might choose he'd have no part of something that risky.

Hey don't worry about it, doesn't make any difference to me... Would think it's placebo rather than that testosterone actually makes your wife orgasm.

I don't think raised testosterone levels in women has ANYTHING to do with orgasm or clitoral size either. I've never found it easy to orgasm (hence why I'm here perhaps???) and I've got raised testosterone levels from a medical condition. In fact I don't know anyone of my friends with the same condition who do find it "easy". I also know men who struggle as well so where does that fit in with your analysis? I'd seriously consider what you're doing to your wife long term by injecting her. And if I were your wife...you don't want to know the rest of that sentence actually but I'm amazed that you'd put her at risk when you don't have a clue...or maybe it's because you don't have a clue that you do it. Either way I'm not sure ignorance is a good excuse for the serious fuck up you'll make of her hormonal balances. I'm totally stunned.

I know, that's why I made them.

Sorry had to do this in two so I could read what I'd written and because my laptop is running slow. Where was I? er... Oh yes, anal play when you're on your own. I don't know basically. This is where men and women probably part company because of the different mechanisms for sexual pleasure. Anal play alone used to get me off because of the fantasies associated with it for the most part, I'm sure. It was also the next thing to push me over the edge when I'd become desensitised to pretty much everything else. If I'm honest it was getting dangerous the lengths I'd have gone to for that extra push on some days. Anyway, that's by the by and totally irrelevant here. Actually I give up here, I can't get my head round what I wanted to say.

Liking your answers... I'm another who feels like sex is part of some greater thing, well good sex is anyway. I did once find a website that taught that great sex was a pathway to "God" (whatever higher power you want to call this) and that great connective sex was a religious experience. I could actually really go for that and I wouldn't say I don't believe it now in some ways. What do I think about the original question.. - that I got into anal stuff because it was naughty and because it generally floors guys when you say you like it (ok I was 16/17 and it drove men crazy). It's the whole posh girl getting dirty behind closed doors...it does it for me. It didn't hurt that I actually really enjoyed it mostly too after doing my own experimentation before letting anyone near me. I remember the first time I actually had anal sex and who did it...I think the same guy who first fisted me as it happens. Dunno, it's hazy. - For me I don't think intimacy has much to do with it given my past lifestyle although intimacy might be borne from the behaviour of a partner, respect and care etc. Eroticism is a big thing too. - As for twisted sex...I get that. For me it's the all out dirty hot sweaty, generally very messy and totally exhausting sex that makes me think "wow". Unfortunately it was rare before and now is non-existant but I've got some amazing memories. The sort of sex where you look like you've drunk several bottles of wine after. Totally exhausting and totally satisfying. Missing it now! I don't think that liking perverted sex is different, I think it's the quest to find someone where it clicks so well that nothing is out of bounds and you just don't think about what you're doing because you're too busy doing it...in fact now I've written it and thought about it I'm 99% convinced that this is the key, it's not how perverted or kinky it is its the fact that you have to click with someone to do it and thats what makes it so good. Vanilla sex can be as mindblowing when the same connection is there so it has to be that chemistry rather than the actions... -

The problem with large babies isn't the vagina though it's whether the pelvis is big enough for their head which is the much more important concern than tearing. Luckily mine came early so I didn't have to panic in the end but had he been on time or late he would easily have been 12/13lb and vaginal tearing was never brought up only concerns about whether there was room for his head. Having said that it probably wouldn't have been too bad since I could take double vag fist before he was born... Personally I wouldn't recommend fisting in pregnancy because of the risk of weakening the cervix or introducing infection. I gave it up when preggers but then I suppose I'd waited so long for the pregnancy I wasn't going to jeapordise it.

QUOTE(anllover @ Jul 3 2008, 01:48 AM) [snapback]100059[/snapback] but cock shape just happens to hit the right spots. Hell yes! Just wanted to say that the number of men who enjoy ass play far exceeds those who don't (unfortunately for me ) so it is completely irrelevant in terms of sexuality. Just enjoy.

I'm not for a minute worried about it, I'm quite enjoying not being driven by sex all the time (although it's not helping making number 2 baby). I don't agree with all the "normal" stuff anyway, who the hell knows what normal is. Just because it's normal doesn't mean I like it! I was just wondering how the experience had affected everyone else? I suppose because I'm nosy. Frankly I don't want my previous sex drive back, and probably I'm not too bothered about having my previous kinks back either as they seemed to cause me an awful lot of trouble for not a great deal of worthwhile pleasure so it really was just a discussion post. xx

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You know I'm sure they've seen it all before. If it was obvious what they were on the xray I'm sure you'd be fine.

I suppose in that sense ass (how I hate that word!) play is unisex. Like nipples. You either like it or you don't, alone or in company. I don't think it's got much to do with sexuality per se. Maybe I'm wrong though as I'm not in the position of having to account for much more than a liking for no strings sex which isn't very "female" so I'm told. I suppose the only thing that might indicate a "questionable" is the need for penetration...but then thats what you've just said. I give up. It's 7.15 am on a Sunday morning. It's too early for anything but sleepy sexy *dare I say it* love making.

Go on Gni, you've not given us the benefit of your opinions and thoughts for a while I see, why not? What's changed? For what its worth I'm not sure about the difference between bi-curious and bisexual, I mean, can you be curious until you try it then you have to confirm one way or another?