Hey! That is my first post on here, though I've been registered and been reading RoseButtBoard for over a year now and been into anal fisting for about a year or so. So far (not a lot of regular sessions unfortunately..) My mistress suggested we start anal stretching and that's how I got hooked up. I started off with hardly getting 2 fingers in on a 1st session, now I am able to take a 7,5cm (diameter) hard plug. It took about 14 sessions in total to get to this stage, and 5 sessions to insert a fist. So I was kind of happy with the way stretching was going and really love the play! It's the best thing I ever tried and I no longer interested in the classic sex I was having before.
The only problem I have- I can't cum from anal only. I was told that tensing (like if I were to push the hand/toy out) and trying to push out "prolapse" (I don't yet have it) while fisted/pegged should help me cum handsfree (also known as sissy-gasm in certain subcultures/roleplays). I've been trying that for a few months, but can't seem to find a way to cum hands free, maximum what I managed to produce was a table spoon of pre/cum (after 2 h non stop fisting session, and 5 h before play time). We tried poppers, but that mainly helps to get anal orgasms, and not on regular bases either, only when my anal turns into a swollen mess and starts itching/hurting then I can get anal orgasm.
After using poppers - penis orgasm is not possible (as it's always flaccid during fisting and usually is in the sissy cage, so removing it takes a while), getting it up is extremely hard after poppers and requires A LOT of hard hand job (last time the frenulum was torn from all the effort to make it hard). Also in the nearest 6-7 months I wouldn't be able to use hard jerking method, as penis is being heavily modified and will be bandaged most of the time (the head and base are being split-meatotomy, so it looks like a clit/labia and will fulfil the overall look, then it will be pierced with rings and tattooed with a "stockings lace" type of pattern, big and existing project!), so I need to learn to cum handsfree from fisting.
I would really appreciate your advice! And I am always happy to chat to people with same interests, so feel free to say hi (especially if you are from UK and you are into fisting/crossdressing/sissy play).
Thank you and have a wonderful prolapse!