I'll give a more detailed story below but basically I want to start going wider but struggle to go very deep. Is it okay to keep going wider without going very deep or should I take the time to also train for depth?
Background - I've been playing with my ass for years but usually pretty casually, certainly compared to many people on here. I'm finally in a place where I can play as I like (supportive relationship, she doesn't play with me but doesn't care that I do, our own place, that kinda stuff) and would like to start pushing my limits a bit. I've taken a fist before and can take a 2.6" diameter buttplug, the biggest toy I currently own. I plan to start going bigger with dildos, starting a little under that plug and going up from there. I love that stretching feeling and I especially love to go hard once I'm stretched out. I have developed a small rosebutt that I'd like to "grow". Prolapses definitely turn me on, but I'm not necessarily trying to prolapse myself.
My problem is depth. I can only go about 6" before hitting a wall. When going slowly I can get to 8" but as soon as I start pounding I'm limited to more like 6 or 7 before I start getting some pain and have previously had some bleeding if I push past that pain.
Before I start getting wider toys do I need to do some depth training? I guess I'm only in the rectum and would need to stretch/straighten the sigmoid colon to go deeper? I used to have a 1"x16" dildo that I would use to go past the rectum. I could take that all the way but I didn't like that as much as stretching wider and it was always a hassle to be perfectly clean that far up. Will depth come just by playing more? What am I missing by not going deeper? If you've been in a similar situation what did you do?
