Any dilation tips for a beginner?

[fullandwet]

Hi, I'm a relative noobie (straight female). I have had long time interest in stretching myself anally. I wear a medium butt plug 3-4 hours a week (one of those cute rosebud jewel ones), but I feel like I want something much more. Am thinking about upgrading to a large.... my medium goes in with only a minute or so of sitting/lying on it and relaxing my body and my breathing. Once it's in, I'm easily able to move around. I love the feeling, and I'm developing some muscle control near my anal opening, which is really exciting because I'm using muscles I didn't know I had.

I would love other people's tips on manageable ways I can learn to stretch my opening to accommodate more, and refine my muscle control a bit higher in my ass. I am realistic, I'm open to some discomfort (really, isn't it part of the process, LOL) but don't want to do too much too soon and hurt myself.

My short term goal is to have enough of a gape that I can take a cock easily during sex without much prep, just a big squirt or two of lube. Long term of course I would like to have more of a gape and/or a descended anal opening. All input warmly welcomed! (pardon the pun). Edited May 1, 2010 by fullandwet

[Harohunter]

What size is the medium plug?

I personally started with a 1.5in diameter plug and increased in size by .25 inches every 2 weeks or so. This works quite well for me. I stretch approximately 30 minutes a day actively fucking myself with the plug. I also wear the plug around the house when possible for a couple of hours(debate is still out if it helps but it feels good.). When I get a new toy i just lube it up alot and keep trying to insert it till it pops in.

I have thought about making a harness that allows a thick dildo for long periods of time, I think this will expedite the process.

And last but not least welcome to the forums.

Id love to hear some other peoples tips and techniques too. Edited May 1, 2010 by Paintballass

[BottomBoy]

I think the best way to get your ass muscles to relax is to train over time. I like to keep my plug inside as long as possible, even sleep with it in. But only do this if you have a plug with a large stopper to keep it from sucking up inside of you. You do not want to loose a butt plug up your ass. Anyway, after a night of being plugged my ass is loose and ready for anything all day long. If you are going for a larger size I would recommend using your largest plug that fits for eight hours, that would be long enough for your body to forget it is there, and then put in a slightly larger plug to step up the size game. If your goal is take a cock easily then try and get a plug where the diameter is the same size as the cock.

[fullandwet]

Thanks, guys. I have heard conflicting things about sleeping with the butt plug in, but it stands to reason that wearing it for a long time like that would have good results... I think I'll try it. Also, I will work up to a 1.5 in plug... currently my plug is 1.25 which is OK for now but not where I want to be. I do want to be able to take the cock easily, and I'm not there yet (obviously, he's very supportive of my efforst, although it's kinda been my idea).

Thanks, paintballass, for the welcome to the forum :-)

K

[Harohunter]

[quote name='fullandwet' date='04 May 2010 - 02:36 AM' timestamp='1272936973' post='178492']
Thanks, guys. I have heard conflicting things about sleeping with the butt plug in, but it stands to reason that wearing it for a long time like that would have good results... I think I'll try it. Also, I will work up to a 1.5 in plug... currently my plug is 1.25 which is OK for now but not where I want to be. I do want to be able to take the cock easily, and I'm not there yet (obviously, he's very supportive of my efforst, although it's kinda been my idea).

Thanks, paintballass, for the welcome to the forum :-)

K
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Be warned when you sleep with the plug the lube will dry and it will hurt when removing it. I would rather wear it all day and remove every couple of hours to relube.

[fullandwet]

Yes, but wearing it all day can be awkward at work, so sleeping with it in has the convenience factor. But then again, there are always weekends ;-) And it would be fun doing Saturday errands with a plug in! I have noticed that the lube I have, which came with my plug, tends to be absorbed by my body more quickly than I'd like. I'm thinking of going more old school in my lube - e.g. vaseline... would that be OK with a stainless steel plug? I'm thinking it would be OK...

Also, although the plug is a great tool, I'm wondering if I should be adding something else, like a speculum, to hold my ass open. The plug is great, but I find the biggest challenge is my outer ring and I want to make sure I exercise it enough. A speculum sounds like a good idea, does anyone else use one in their training, or are plugs enough?

[t.j. the pimp]

[quote name='Paintballass' date='03 May 2010 - 07:42 PM' timestamp='1272940939' post='178496']
Be warned when you sleep with the plug the lube will dry and it will hurt when removing it. I would rather wear it all day and remove every couple of hours to relube.
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most like the pain. *wink wink*

[Harohunter]

[quote name='fullandwet' date='04 May 2010 - 04:21 AM' timestamp='1272943295' post='178497']
Yes, but wearing it all day can be awkward at work, so sleeping with it in has the convenience factor. But then again, there are always weekends ;-) And it would be fun doing Saturday errands with a plug in! I have noticed that the lube I have, which came with my plug, tends to be absorbed by my body more quickly than I'd like. I'm thinking of going more old school in my lube - e.g. vaseline... would that be OK with a stainless steel plug? I'm thinking it would be OK...
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Vaseline and stainless are fine together.

Wearing a plug in public gives me an awesome feeling, But I love exhibitionism.

If i were to start over again i would have tried this: http://www.edenfantasys.com/anal-toys/anal-kits/juli-ashton-anal-beginner It has 2 inch diameter and 2 1 1/2 diameter. Edited May 4, 2010 by Paintballass

[srfister]

there are butt plug harnesses out there, mostly for bigger plugs http://web-001.meo-team.com/catalog/product_info.php?products_id=8623&image_index=2

but there is a 24 hour
http://web-001.meo-team.com/catalog/product_info.php?cPath=160_148&products_id=8345

24/7 plug. but you gotta be cleaned out for this one.
http://web-001.meo-team.com/catalog/product_info.php?cPath=160_148&products_id=8616

otherwise id just get a trainer kit so you can graduate to different sizes. to gape your self open alot more just work your outter ring with your plug by clamping down and pulling out. helped me alot!

have a good one!

[fullandwet]

Sweet! thanks, guys, for the links. These all seem really good (and I might look into a female version of the harness, that looked integuing).

[pooper7]

I just wear a tight fitting thong to hold my plug in all day. Works fine for me.

[Kein_Mitleid]

Other than those fine links above, I have a few more I wish to plug in (LOL!):

Two kinds of "anal stretching rings" - essentially, transparent bored butt plugs.
http://huse.com/Merchant2/merchant.mvc?Screen=PROD&Store_Code=HDC&Product_Code=218123&Category_Code=
http://huse.com/Merchant2/merchant.mvc?Screen=PROD&Store_Code=HDC&Product_Code=21847&Category_Code=


And the FEMALE harness that goes with it!
http://huse.com/Merchant2/merchant.mvc?Screen=PROD&Product_Code=218030


Butt plugs will do fine. It depends if you also like the deeper feeling of being full... a large butt plug will also be longer, so that will do if it's what you want. These anal stretching rings will do the same thing, but without the deeper full feeling... (whether or not they make an asshole learn faster, I cannot say!) though I must say, they are sexier to look at!

[Harohunter]

Those rings look cool! I would just be scared of the "accidents" associated with a ring.

[marcus]

[quote name='fullandwet' date='01 May 2010 - 06:58 AM' timestamp='1272689881' post='178077']
Hi, I'm a relative noobie (straight female). I have had long time interest in stretching myself anally. I wear a medium butt plug 3-4 hours a week (one of those cute rosebud jewel ones), but I feel like I want something much more. Am thinking about upgrading to a large.... my medium goes in with only a minute or so of sitting/lying on it and relaxing my body and my breathing. Once it's in, I'm easily able to move around. I love the feeling, and I'm developing some muscle control near my anal opening, which is really exciting because I'm using muscles I didn't know I had.

I would love other people's tips on manageable ways I can learn to stretch my opening to accommodate more, and refine my muscle control a bit higher in my ass. I am realistic, I'm open to some discomfort (really, isn't it part of the process, LOL) but don't want to do too much too soon and hurt myself.

My short term goal is to have enough of a gape that I can take a cock easily during sex without much prep, just a big squirt or two of lube. Long term of course I would like to have more of a gape and/or a descended anal opening. All input warmly welcomed! (pardon the pun).
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Hi, fullandwet.

Prolonged butt plug wearing won't help you much in expanding your capacity and the ability to stretch. Please read [url="http://www.rosebuttboard.com/index.php?showtopic=30741&view=findpost&p=183027"]this post of mine[/url] and be free to ask any questions, both publicly or by PM.

Regards,

Marcus