Don't do what I did - permanently hindered anal pleasure

[jackshit]

I have a few posts about this scattered around but I decided to put it in one place, mostly to help out some people who might be heading the same way.

I'm reaching 40 and been playing for most of my life, but in the past year or so I've been going for things that were just too wide for me and apparently I ended up with some nerve damage. By late 2021 I noticed I was no longer enjoying anal play - what used to give  me a lot of pleasure and make me super horny was just making me uncomfortable and wishing to get it over with. I was no longer playing because I wanted to, but because it was on my routine and I had to justify having all those toys.

I posted here and was told it could've been nerve damage. Someone recommended to stop my play for a few months and I did. Here am I 3 months later and today I decided to give it a go, I'd say I still feel only about 10-20% of the pleasure I had before. I can still do it but it would be just easier and more convenient to simply wank.

What apparently caused my supposed nerve damage was a never ending desire to go bigger (mostly wider). I have a small frame, and tried to achieve large diameters (10cm or larger) by forcing large plugs as hard as I could - most of the time I would just end up with painful arm/hand muscles. My ass was not feeling pain, but I was unknowingly numbing myself when forcing things beyond the opening of my sit bones. I think the pressure simply squeezed the nerves too hard and that removed most of the pleasure I can feel with my ass.

Apart from that, I must say that my life carries on normally - I can still crap and retain feces normally, and I can still feel normal pleasure with my dick. But my ass is no longer "hungry", I don't feel anymore that urge to get something in there like I had for decades. Funny part is that I don't really miss it - it's like being hungry, you will really enjoy a meal after, but you don't actually miss the hunger.

Anyway, I wish I had this information earlier, and kept my diameter around 8cm maximum which is still enough to feel stretched and receive female fists.

Don't do what I did. 

 

[Jarred]

I had the same as you are describing. I too didn't enjoy it anymore, because it didn't feel as nice as it did before. 

I also played with toys that were over 10cm wide, but all of a sudden I had way less feeling while playing. It resulted in not playing anymore. Apart from some fingers and small toys under the shower I didn't stretch my ass for almost a whole year.

At some point I started to feel horny again from anal toying which ultimately resulted in getting back to stretching my ass like I used to. To my surprise my ass didn't need much warming up and just swallowed my biggest toy like I never stopped playing. Also the feeling was there again, maybe better than it ever was.

I personally never thought about having damaged some nerve endings, I think it had to do with some mental issues for me.

Maybe you can relate to that in a way, if you can, you might want to stop heavy play for almost a year or at least until you are mentally ready.

I really hope it helps for too.

[Darthvin]

I maybe speaking complete nonsense but I do honestly think you are mentally 'blocked' from the pleasure. The only 'stimulating' nerves you'll find in the anal area are at the sphincter, the prostrate and the 'back' of the root penis. The rest is purely 'cosmetic' per say and mentally associated pleasure. Take for instance the intense pleasure of fullness... How many people do you know that get off having a rectum full of held in shit... None I'd guess. 

I'm not suggesting you haven't got nerve damage, I know I've affect nerves in legs and spine etc. But I've also done that through estim. 

I'd suggest a different approach like for a while focus on thinner depth toys perhaps. Or maybe just forgetting about anal play altogether. Your mental wellbeing is far more important.

Tonuse me as an example - I rarely orgasm penile. I have particular issues that really fuck me up for weeks. Luckily I have an amazing partner and we have a good sex life and have incorporated this need to not orgasm (I won't go into detail) into our lives. Little bit of control and dominatrix I'd say but it's only to prevent the release. 

Ultimately just do what you enjoy. If youd damaged nerves etc I'd say you'd either be shitting yourself or in pain. 

[Radeon]

11 hours ago, jackshit said:

I have a few posts about this scattered around but I decided to put it in one place, mostly to help out some people who might be heading the same way.

I'm reaching 40 and been playing for most of my life, but in the past year or so I've been going for things that were just too wide for me and apparently I ended up with some nerve damage. By late 2021 I noticed I was no longer enjoying anal play - what used to give  me a lot of pleasure and make me super horny was just making me uncomfortable and wishing to get it over with. I was no longer playing because I wanted to, but because it was on my routine and I had to justify having all those toys.

I posted here and was told it could've been nerve damage. Someone recommended to stop my play for a few months and I did. Here am I 3 months later and today I decided to give it a go, I'd say I still feel only about 10-20% of the pleasure I had before. I can still do it but it would be just easier and more convenient to simply wank.

What apparently caused my supposed nerve damage was a never ending desire to go bigger (mostly wider). I have a small frame, and tried to achieve large diameters (10cm or larger) by forcing large plugs as hard as I could - most of the time I would just end up with painful arm/hand muscles. My ass was not feeling pain, but I was unknowingly numbing myself when forcing things beyond the opening of my sit bones. I think the pressure simply squeezed the nerves too hard and that removed most of the pleasure I can feel with my ass.

Apart from that, I must say that my life carries on normally - I can still crap and retain feces normally, and I can still feel normal pleasure with my dick. But my ass is no longer "hungry", I don't feel anymore that urge to get something in there like I had for decades. Funny part is that I don't really miss it - it's like being hungry, you will really enjoy a meal after, but you don't actually miss the hunger.

Anyway, I wish I had this information earlier, and kept my diameter around 8cm maximum which is still enough to feel stretched and receive female fists.

Don't do what I did. 

 

i think now it's the time to checking out your testosterone levels or maybe you're taking some kind of stressed.

[Ohyes1978]

You end your anal play only if you have other things in life, anal playing is only because ppl don’t have anything else maybe to do in their life

[Jarred]

10 hours ago, Ohyes1978 said:

You end your anal play only if you have other things in life, anal playing is only because ppl don’t have anything else maybe to do in their life

How is that? Anal play is no more than a hobby, like normal masturbation is. I have many things to do in my life and once in a while I practice my hobby.

[teletarzan]

11 hours ago, Ohyes1978 said:

You end your anal play only if you have other things in life, anal playing is only because ppl don’t have anything else maybe to do in their life

There is more in life than anal play.It can be part of life like porn or masturbation....

[jackshit]

On 2/26/2022 at 10:39 PM, Darthvin said:

I maybe speaking complete nonsense but I do honestly think you are mentally 'blocked' from the pleasure. The only 'stimulating' nerves you'll find in the anal area are at the sphincter, the prostrate and the 'back' of the root penis. The rest is purely 'cosmetic' per say and mentally associated pleasure. Take for instance the intense pleasure of fullness... How many people do you know that get off having a rectum full of held in shit... None I'd guess. 

I'm not suggesting you haven't got nerve damage, I know I've affect nerves in legs and spine etc. But I've also done that through estim. 

I'd suggest a different approach like for a while focus on thinner depth toys perhaps. Or maybe just forgetting about anal play altogether. Your mental wellbeing is far more important.

Tonuse me as an example - I rarely orgasm penile. I have particular issues that really fuck me up for weeks. Luckily I have an amazing partner and we have a good sex life and have incorporated this need to not orgasm (I won't go into detail) into our lives. Little bit of control and dominatrix I'd say but it's only to prevent the release. 

Ultimately just do what you enjoy. If youd damaged nerves etc I'd say you'd either be shitting yourself or in pain. 

Initially I thought it was just mental too, but how come I can still enjoy fucking women? I don't have the energy of 20 years ago but I can still get hard and enjoy a normal session, even 2 if I'm really into it.

Thinner toys have no effect on me at all, I might as well just wank without any anal stimulation if not using some at least fist sized.

[jackshit]

On 2/26/2022 at 8:03 PM, Jarred said:

 

Maybe you can relate to that in a way, if you can, you might want to stop heavy play for almost a year or at least until you are mentally ready.

I really hope it helps for too.

Thank, I guess the next step is trying to leave all anal play for a year and hoping for the best