Opened up to my wife... FINALLY!!

[gapelover87]

First of all, she knew I liked a finger or 2 up my bum, and that I was a deviant. 

She has always been very dirrrrty and loves sex but I have always hidden my true, big toy, fisting and rosebutt fetish. 

Long story short, she hinted at being more open and I suggested using a strapon... She agreed she'd like to try it. 

To ease her in, well, slightly, I produced my Doc Johnson Master Tool No4 (6inch) and my Colt XL Buttplugs which I have kept hidden from her. 

To my surprise, she wasn't Phased in the slightest, I stuck it straight in my ass (I don't need lube for the Master Tool as I'm very experienced).  She couldn't believe it, loved it and we had sex with this thing all the way in my ass. 

On a side note, I have been using the King Cock 10.5inch Mega Girthy for a long while and showed her my collection. (She wasn't sure on using the big megagirthy as it scared her a bit) so I told her I'd buy a different one for strapon sex.... 

Since then I have bought the King Cock Mega Chubby (10inch circumference) and used it tonight... OMG it wide, but I got it in no problems, first time, almost balls deep.. Hurrayyyy! 

 

I told her it was like a weight being lifted off of my shoulders telling her and her being not only accepting but wanting to get involved, I told her everything and she reassured me that I should never have stressed about it the past 10 years. 

I must say, she did test the water and ask if I like guy on guy porn but I told her that I only watch guys being fisted by women and reassured her I was definitely not going to leave her for a guy, not now she wants to fist me!! 

Take my advice and if your woman is already kinky, bet your bottom dollar she wants to peg you! Case by case basis but I'd always ease her in with regards to how extreme you are into this kind of thing. 

 

Hope this helps and reassures anyone in my previous situation. 

 

Happy rosebutting. 

Jamie! 

[AzFrNick]

I have had relationships with women who knew and others who did not.

When I was married I told my then fiancee everything about my kinks and she accepted them, even fisting me on occasions.

I believe that one should tell everything in that matter to their fiancee before even proposing marriage. This is probably the healthiest thing to do and will avoid a lot of bitterness in the future.

That said, congratulations on opening up.

[elirian]

I've already posted about my experience in a different thread, but since I think its an important topic I'll share again: My fiance is not particularly kinky, but she is an incredibly kind and emotionally generous person, so I knew in my head that she would never really judge me for being into buttstuff even though I wasn't sure she would necessarily want to participate herself. Still, I decided to hide that part of myself from her for several years, since that's what I've always done and I was nervous about making myself vulnerable in that way - perhaps irrationally so. Anyway, a couple years ago she found a bottle of lube I forgot to hide, and at first was very upset since she didn't know why I had bought in the first place. This sort of forced me to explain to her that I was using it to play with my butt, which assuaged her concerns about what else I might have been doing, but she was still pretty angry that I had kept something that important to me secret from her for so long (about 5 years at that point). Since then, I have asked her to fist me, and she has, though we currently live with my family so we've really only had a couple opportunities to try it. Once we move out I hope to get her to be more willing to explore her own sexuality (and not just my fetishes), since I don't want her to feel like I'm pulling her out of her comfort zone and not reciprocating. The way you described it as being like a weight being lifted is accurate - I didn't realize how much strain keeping a big secret was putting on our relationship and on my own mental wellbeing. I certainly wish I had said something earlier in our relationship, but I am very glad things worked out anyway.

[gapelover87]

UPDATE: SHE USED A THICK DILDO ON ME AND LOVED IT... LATEX GLOVES AND FISTING NEXT WEEK... CAN'T WAIT!! 

[qaz1515]

I've had two long term relationships that didn't go well. Opened up to them.......i was disgusting or gay..........next! One even came the hardest with four fingers in her bum and a occasional lick to the clit, go figure...........next!