How to speak of this to my GF ?

[Shalquoir]

I've already try to just kiss. She likes to be kiss at this place, but doesn't seems to want to go deeper.

When we fuck in doggystyle, she wants a finger in her anus, but nothing more.

 

I'm a bit confused.

[adventurous1]

What about watching regular porn together and then eventually porn with anal scenes?

 

My wife is no-go on anal. We did it a few times when she was younger and there was not a problem. Now she does not want it anymore. She said she is afraid that something will change and she will have little accidents. I plan to tell her that just the opposite is true.

 

Your GF may have a friend that is advising her.

[Gonzalo]

I feel you bro. You're not the only that have a 'similar' problem.

 

I've never had a girlfriend because of that. I've been too selective to chose the 'right one'. I did have the opportunity like 4 times but i rejected all of them, well, that's another story. But yeah, something that i want to have in a girl is part of a 'good' communication skills to each other.

 

It's your girlfriend bro. I know it's difficult. Take some time and try to speak to her.

 

Maybe I'm not the right person to say this but well bro, maybe because our generation is too 'close'.

 

Well bro, maybe our generation is too 'close mind', If you really need something I will be here. :)

[Shalquoir]

I don't think it's our generation which is too "close mind".

I know a few girls who enjoy anal.

I don't like to say that, but it seems that it's my GF who is close mind. At least, close mind about anal sex.

[rosebuttninja]

It seems like she is curious or she wouldn't ask you to finger her ass at all. She is likely afraid of taking a dick in her ass until you cum because of preconcieved pain or images of unintended dirty panty accidents. If she likes the finger, she will like the cock :) Good Luck! Ask her to sit on your dick and go at her pace.

[Shalquoir]

Yeah, that was my first thought. "If she wants a finger, she will wants a cock."

But she recently tell me, when we was discussing about why she was so "closed" about some things in sex, that she doesn't really enjoy anal sex. Then, my mind = blowing. I don't know what to think. She want a finger but not a cock ? WTF ?

[rosebuttninja]

Maybe try a 1/2 inch vibrator and start exciting her about the size. You can always tell her that you'll let her do to you, anything you would do to her first :)

[Shalquoir]

I already tell her that what I want to do on she, she can do it on me first. No success.

I will try the vibrator in the upcoming months, but I doubt... 

Maybe I have to forgot about anal play.

[adventurous1]

I still think that if she sees another woman enjoying anal sex in a porn scene then she might realize that she is missing something.

 

This is the approach that I plan to take with my wife. I am waiting until she is retired and has more personal time.

 

I have read internet articles written by women for women on this subject.

[Shalquoir]

I'm not really confident about watch porn with my GF. I don't know, I imagine that it will result on a big akward moment.

 

I read some of this articles too. And I was surprises to read a lot of women who like anal. But, I imagine some of girls doesn't like anal at all. Maybe my GF is one of these.

[adventurous1]

Maybe...  :down:  It is not the end of the world.

 

I will keep hoping that my wife finds a reason to try it again.